Hi everyone, im a 33 year old married man, I have 2 children. Both r in their mid teens. I have always had thoughts about other men since my teens. I only use to fancy gay men never straight, but now I'm finding straight men attractive. I find myself thinking and fantasing about men mote and more. I do watch gay porn, I've only had 1 experience with another man which was very brief, and did end with oral. I then felt ashamed off myself. Im very confused
Hi! Welcome to EC! Maybe youre gay, maybe youre bisexual. Whatever you are, you should accept yourself. It is NEVER easy, tho. It takes a lot of time and a lot understanding, from both yourself and from other people around you. EC is a great place for you to slowly accept and understand your sexuality. A lot of intelligent and wise people are in here. You can post a thread here (Gender Identity and Expression) concerning your confusion in your sexuality I hope that you find the answers to your questions. And if you need to talk to someone, you can always leave a message on my wall and I'll reply ASAP! Have a good day, sir!
Thanks for taking the time to speak to me Its a very confussing time. However i feel how is my wife going to understand weve been married ten years it will destroy her. I feel im living the wrong life but i do love my wife so much.
Welcome to EC Ross. It sounds like you have a lot of feelings to work through, with the extra consideration of your wife and kids. I'm sure it's not easy for you. Do you think porn is maybe fuelling the confusion and questioning right now? Could it be that the images of naked men having sex are putting your thoughts and feelings on a continuous loop? Fortunately, we have a number of guys on this forum who are going through (or have been through) precisely the same situation as you find yourself in right now and it might be good for you to exchange messages with them. If you post about your circumstances on here, you might get some useful feedback: LGBT Later in Life - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender people coming out
Thanks for the advice. I thought about the porn thing myself so kept away from it for months, but was still having the same feelings and urges. I feel as time goes by the thoughts are there constantly. I was in Brighton last weekend with my wife and found myself checking men out allday and even got a wink off a handsome man. That in itself made me feel different inside
