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Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by PinkRainbow, Mar 23, 2015.

  1. PinkRainbow

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    Hello everyone,
    I'm a little anxious and excited at the same time to be on a forum like this, I'm a first timer.
    I have recently expressed my feelings to my husband about the possibility that I am a lesbian. Its been a bit of a struggle to say the least to get him to understand that is not because I have just fallen out of love with him. At first he was surprisingly supportive but after a few months or so he is trying his best to convince me I am just going through a stage in life. I have met a woman, openly gay, and have fallen for her head over heels. Its not the first woman I have fallen(!) for except is the first one I have admitted to, even to myself. I'm a bit stuck so any advice would be extremely helpful.
    Thank you for 'listening'
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    Hello and welcome to EC, PinkRainbow!

    I can understand why your husband is thinking what he's thinking. He's afraid, as you've said yourself, that you've fallen out of love with him.

    It's good to hear that you've found someone! Since you're stuck, I strongly advise you to take a look at the Family, Friends, and Relationships section on the forum. I'm sure that many helpful and wonderful members will give you their opinion and advice. All you need to do is post a thread!

    I hope you'll have a great time on here. :wink:
     
  3. PinkRainbow

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    Thanks Andrei, ill take a look now. Its the guilt in struggling to deal with, we have a 4 year old daughter too and is breaking my heart thinking that I'm splitting up the family.
     
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    Splitting up your family is hard indeed, i had to leave my daughter too (although for whole other reasons) but the love between me and my daughter never got worse, it even got better. At the age of 4 they will accept it easily.
    You've got to make a choice for yourself, keep living with your husband or leave him and dive in to the big adventure of restarting your life with someone else.
    It's a hard choice to make and it will always feel as right as it feels wrong.
     
  5. PinkRainbow

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    Thank you for your response, I like your final words "it'll feel as right as it feels wrong" and that is so true. Its killing me tho. The easy option would be for me to stay but there would forever be a 'what if'.
    It's all still really new and I'm selfishly putting off making a decision.
    Hopefully being on here can help me to clear my way.:slight_smile:
     
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    Hey :slight_smile:
    can I join your chocolate society too lol?

    ---------- Post added 25th Mar 2015 at 07:54 PM ----------

    Hey to you too lovely lesbian :slight_smile: