Hi there... My name is MintyGirl and I have been questioning a lot about myself lately. I outwardly identify as a straight female currently in a BDSM relationship, but I've always found myself drawn to other females since I was a kid. I don't really know who to talk to IRL because I don't want my partner to think I'm questioning my love for him. Also, I know my family would completely flip out if I told them any of this. All my life things have been very black and white. I had to choose between going into a career I genuinely liked that was primarily male-dominated and going into something more "fitting" for someone like me who is expected to settle down and have kids in a few years anyways. Part of me wants to be both male and female, just not worry about gender norms at all. Right now I'm trying to tackle this and battle depression at the same time. I'm sorry for ranting, I don't know where else to go. -MintyGirl
Welcome MintyGirl. You've come to a great place. Please don't be worried. We all have our own story to tell, and everyone is really supportive and non-judgemental here. Please feel free to share your thoughts, views and comments, and above all, enjoy being here.
Hey there, MintyGirl! Welcome to EC. It sounds like you're having quite a bit of trouble, but you've definitely come to the right place for support. The people here are open and helpful, and it's a great place to help figure yourself out without anything negative interfering. I'm Sev, and if you need someone to talk to, you can feel free to drop a message on my wall.
First off, welcome to EC! As for your questioning, do you have any close friends you might be able to talk to about it? Sometimes it helps to just tell one or two accepting people if you're not sure yet, but only if you'd be ready for that. EC's still a great place for help and support.