I am not exactly sure why I'm on here I guess I am just looking for strength in others. I have been considering coming out to my friends and family for awhile but I am not sure if they will understand how I know when I have never been with another women. How do you explain to your family that you just know?
Welcome to EC! You and me, we're in a similar position. I've never been with another guy before, but the fact that I'm Gay is something I've known and haven't questioned for a long time. I know the first question out of my mom is going to be "how do you know?", and I'm going to tell her it's because I've always been attracted to guys and can't remember one time I've been drawn to a girl. Straight people can't realize it, but coming out isn't an easy thing. You could also tell them, for reinforcement, that coming out and admitting you're Gay is the hardest thing you've ever done and the reason you've agonized for so long over it is because you love and care about them and want the same in return from them. Or you could do what I'm going to do, and write a letter. I get way too emotional over everything and wont be able actually say to my family "I'm Gay" until they understand the whole story. What you do is up to you, but that's my advice. Hope to see you around
Hi and welcome! I'm basically the same as well. Jersey put it very well and Im an echo of his situation and yours. I have known I was gay for a while too, and while I have been fighting it Im starting to just go with it more and more. But I too have never been with anyone but Im positive that this is how I am. (Apparently my mom thinks you should wait until your 20's until you know for sure, but little does she know I have a surprise that will shake that idea). But if they do tell you that you cant know or ask you how you do know, just try to reassure them that this is one of those things you just know, regardless of if you've been with anyone to "validate" it. I hope to see you around as well =)
Hi and Welcome to EC!! I've been with guys but never with girls but I do watch straight pornos and I get excited when I watching girls in those movies so that's why I consider myself bi. When I've never been with guys I wasn't sure if I'm really into guys but I knew I enjoy watching guy on guy actions so that gave me clues. Anyways, hope to see you around:smilewave
Hi, and welcome to EC. I think it's harder coming out to parents than it is to anyone else. Don't rush it, and do it the way you'll be most comfortable. Remeber that just like you needed time to understand and accept being gay, they'll need to time as well - so don't expect them to understand and accepet it right away. Good luck.
Hello and welcome to EC! Just so you know there is no set time as to when you need to come out, you'll do it when you are ready. I was never with a girl, but I didn't have to be with one to know that I was not attracted to them. Don't get me wrong, I love women, but just as friends! "HAVE FAITH AND EVERYTHING WILL BE ALL RIGHT!"
Hi, ur in a tough situation, but i'm sure you'll make it through And we are here to help you through it
Hi darkness - and welcome (don't think I've said so before):smilewave As far as "knowing" - well, it's fairly obvious when you get turned on by girls, not guys (or guys, not girls - if you are a guy). As far as explaining to the family...well...i don't thgink there is an easy way. You could print out some info from some of the resources to support the fact that it ISN'T a choice - and NOT something you can change...but that could still be hard for your folks to digest if they go into "denial". All I can say is, try to prepare things as best you can - pick the right (best) moment if you can - and good luck!
Well I told my mom yesterday and she says she new already (since I was little) but didn't want to be the first to bring it up... she says she is o.k. but will pray for me to meet a great guy that will help me see I do have a choice... She may not understand but she is supportive she keeps calling me to see if I am alright because she knows that she is the only one close to me that I have come out to and she doesn't want me to go through it alone... isn't that great...:love:
Hello Darkness! Sorry I'm late, but welcome to EC! That is sweet of her, even though it seems that she doesn't quite understand, but still, very thoughtful of her! Congratulations on coming out, too! It can really be a huge weight off of your shoulders, heh.
Hi Darkness:smilewave I don’t want to be an echo and repeat what others have already said so I will just say that I am in the same boat and know that I am gay, but have had no experiences with other men.(*hug*) Glad everything worked out with your mother WW
