HI GUYS!!! New 20-something bisexual. OUT BUT NOT PROUD

Hi I'm Em, a 20-something year old bisexual woman, and as you can tell... all new to this! :smilewave

To tell you a bit about myself, I've sort of come out in odd bits and pieces to different sets of people. I think my friends have always (sort of) known I'm bi, so i've never had to sit them down and explain it. The same happened with my boyfriend of two and a half years (who couldn't be more supportive). He pretty much knew before committing to the relationship that I was bi, although at the time I never identified as such. He helped me realise that I was and that I should embrace my identity, but at the start of our relationship, my sexuality just wasn't an issue so never mentioned. (*hug*)

But this is where we get to the tricky bit... It got to the stage where I accepted my sexuality and thought I should finally tell my parents, but they both come from fairly religious backgrounds so as accepting as they'd like to be, they're really not very accepting. I came out to my parents a few months ago, and that was really hard. A lot of tears were shed and tensions made, but I feel like it was the right thing to do. They haven't mentioned it since I told them though which is awful because it's something people should talk about. Hopefully you guys can give me a bit of guidance in regards to that.

So basically i'm a bisexual who is OUT BUT NOT PROUD. I'm working on it though. :help:

 

Thank you The Purple One! (*hug*) How do you stay so strong?

 

It takes a lot of strength to truly embrace who you are and not give other people the power to tell you otherwise. I'm trying desperately to accept that i'm bi, but it is hard. I feel ostracised by both the gay and hetero community, and I'm having a hard time remaining proud of myself around my parents. You seem to be doing amazingly well and that's awesome. Keep your courage!

 

Hi mmmelody!

That's very kind of you, I might take you up on it!

Yeah it's such a massive problem. I think i'm probably pansexual but I refer to myself as bi because more people can understand what you're talking about, even if they choose to falsify your claims. Well done you for identifying as pans though, that's amazing. I probably should start! It's so hard trying to educate those that don't wish to be educated though.

I'd like to say that the community here will make me proud, and I have come across several lovely people, but I've already had one woman condescendingly explain to me what bisexuality is (as if I didn't already know), and suggest that i'm only 'claiming' to be it. Never mind though, you always get some hey!