Hey. For most of my life, I thought I was just bisexual. I didn't think there was such a thing as sexual vs. romantic orientation. Now that I've been educated, I think that I might be aromantic. I don't think I was always this way, but I think it happened gradually over the last four or five years. I'm married to someone of the opposite gender/sex. My partner complains that I'm bad at romance and when we do anything romantic it just feels like I'm copying what I know to be romantic, but I don't feel it. It's not just the marriage, either. I haven't felt romantically attractive/attracted in years. I honestly feel like if my spouse left me, I'd never pursue another dating/romantic relationship again. Emotional intimacy makes me incredibly uncomfortable and I've always pulled away from it. I think I got married because deep down I just wanted the relationship stuff to be "over with." I care about my spouse as a human being, very much so. I do believe I love them, I just don't love them romantically....I love them like I love my longtime friends and my family members. (Incidentally, I'm not close with family... I see my parents twice a year and haven't seen my extended family in many years.) As for sexuality, I've been with both sexes, though only ever had cisgendered partners. I'm not opposed to otherwise. I still feel sexual attraction, but to me the act of sex is entirely removed from the idea of romance. This is all very new and confusing to me. I had no idea that much of this terminology existed until recently. Anyway, thanks for taking the time to read.
