Hi, I realize I didn't even introduce myself, I went straight for the LGBT Later in Life Forum. Anyhoo - I am married to a man I love. Our marriage isn't perfect, but I married him knowing that it wouldn't be. I've recently come into full awareness of my attraction to women and it has thrown me into a spin. Not sure if my attraction to men has been pure affection, or what. I suppose at the moment I would identify as queer - with a preference toward women. At first I felt like I had to figure out a way to escape my marriage and figure myself out - but I've exhausted myself over analyzing and devising plans - not even sure exactly what I want. It's been pretty painful so far. I am working up the courage to let him know - although I know he suspects/knows to a certain extent. I'm not prepared to leave the marriage at the moment - but I am feeling pulled toward women, my "new" identity, and living in an authentic way. This is tiring - but I am thankful to have found this forum. Everyone has been lovely so far.(*hug*)
Hello High Art, Welcome to EC! I'm glad that you enjoyed the community so far. You can count on us Hugs (*hug*)
Hello & welcome, HA. My husband & I are best friends & have been together 18 years. He's bi & I'm pan. We have a poly option. For me, it's much less about the sexual. I need strong intellectual & emotional connections. I seek friendship, affection & romance. I don't know if I could have more than two relationships at a time. Most of the time, it's just us. Other than those who are strictly friends. That's what works for us. I don't know if that's something you've considered for your husband & yourself. Hope you enjoy your time here, find the answers you need & make many new friends.