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New and confused and definitely not improved

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by Cj77, Sep 11, 2015.

  1. Cj77

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    Hi I'm new. I'm 32. I thought I was gay but last year remembered my mother sexually abusing me as a child. Now I realise I'm bisexual. Problem? She caused me to have sexual dysfunctions and I'm a virgin in heterosexual terms. Great, huh?!

    Not sure what the hell I'm going to do but I'm super angry and depressed. I HATE myself. :icon_sad:
     
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    Welcome Cj77! We're glad you're here. Be kind to yourself. It sounds like you lacked an innocent childhood so it's critical now to treat your inner child with love and gentleness. And if you'll let us we will love you and your inner child until you can love yourself. :wink:
     
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    Hello! I'm sorry you're depressed. I'm new to this forum but it seems like a very nice and welcoming community, and I'm sure you'll find people to talk to and help you out. If you're worried about being a virgin, I've read other forum threads about people over 35 who still had no experience in that department, and I really wouldn't worry about it. Be kind to yourself, and take all the time you need in figuring out your identity.
     
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    Hello & welcome :grin: I'm sorry you have to go through that, but I hope you'll feel better with time (*hug*)
     
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