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Greetings and introduction

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by Euler, Dec 15, 2015.

  1. Euler

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    Hey everyone,

    I accidentally stumbled upon this forum yesterday and instantly knew I had to register. This looks like a very active and empathetic community and I'm looking forward to talking to you all. I'm not sure which makes me more excited: the fact that this forum is anonymous or that there seems to be tons of people who are struggling with similar issues.

    A brief intro and story how I got here. I'm a 29-year-old male from a semi-socialist country in Northern Europe. I'm currently working in project management.

    I used to think I'm asexual or straight with very low sex drive who lacks capacity to romantic feelings. I have never really had strong sexual desires. As a pre-school boy I did have intense hard-on whenever I saw the cleavage of Brooke from "the Bold and the beautiful" on TV :icon_bigg and occasional weird (heterosexual) fantasies that did not involve me in any way). I don't remember really having a crush on anyone (excluding a girl in the kindergarten :lol: .) However, as I entered the university and did two student exchanges abroad I got to know men and women who invoked strong feelings in me that I had never experienced before. I interpreted these feelings then as love of some sort which made me doubt my sexuality. However, at that time I did not think much of it and the feelings largely passed.

    Then a few years back I traveled to a South American country where through Couch Surfing I met a local man a few years junior to me. We had intimidatingly much in common and instantly got on very well: sharing stuff about our lives that typically you would reveal only to a close friend and even shared the bed (which I did find a bit odd initially). Long story short, I stayed with him only a few days but by the end of my holiday we quite spontaneously at his initiation ended up having an intimate homo-romantic (and to some extent homoerotic) fling. This really made me question my own sexual and romantic orientation and I still don't know exactly what to think all of this.

    Past few years I was absorbed to graduating and job and started exploring these issues only now. I'm pretty sure my issues go way deeper than just sexual and romantic orientation but I'm taking it one step at a time.

    Anyways, this was my longish story. I look forward to having many wonderful discussions with you. If you are in a similar situation I would love to hear about that.

    - Euler
     
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    Welcome to EC! :slight_smile:

    I've read your entire post and unfortunately I don't have any useful advice to give you but please check out the support area of the forums, there's some in similar situations as you are. I hope you're able to find what you're looking for, there's many helpful and caring folks on here! I wish you the best of luck! :slight_smile:
     
  3. Euler

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    Thank you. I was not looking for advice with this post. Just wanted to share my brief history in case someone had experienced something similar. I'll post more specific questions in a relevant area when I get around to it.
     
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    Hi and welcome to the EC family :slight_smile: hope you make some awesome friends and have fun along the way.
     
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    Oh I'm aware of that, I just wanted to point you in the right direction if you ever need the support! :slight_smile:
     
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    Welcome to the site!
     
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    Hello Euler, it seems you have an interesting story to tell (and a cool nickname as well).

    I'm useless as well with all the romance, and I've been drowning in doubts, but taking whatever chance I've got since an early age... While trying to be a fair player, of course. As long as you don't hurt anyone, you can do pretty much whatever you want, and there is no need of a label or an explanation : Sex and love are between human beings. I'm mostly straight, but if something comes my way, I won't throw it away.
    As long as you are comfortable with it, and not hurting anyone, all is allowed.

    Looking forward to read more.

    Enjoy.