Hi all I'm a 24 year old female from Scotland but I currently live in Germany. I have a law degree and I am now studying a Masters degree specialising in Human Rights. I have always been with men but have often fantasised about being with a woman. I thought it was just a curious thing but it's been a growing feeling and I can't really ignore it any longer. I failed to address this issue in my last relationship (hetero with a male) and it caused a lot of problems as I have a lot of insecurities about my body and sexuality. It became worse as I couldn't open up to what I wanted in the bedroom at all and avoided sex a lot because I was worried he would realise I wanted women too. I do definitely still want guys, but my urges towards women are growing. I've had crushes on female friends and female celebrities for a long time and have been close to trying to kiss female friends when we're drunk but never been confident enough to (also because they have made it clear they are definitely straight) so I've just laughed it off as being drunk. I've lost a few friends because I was struggling with my feelings towards them and my last relationship was a mess because of my sexuality and body confidence struggles. I've never kissed a woman or done anything else with one, but I've had a lot of urges and dreams about being with a woman. I really just want to be comfortable with who I am. I don't know if it's just a curiosity or if I'm really bisexual. I have no idea how to find women with similar feelings and I don't know if I should try going to a lesbian or bisexual bar or event because I don't want women to think I'm using them in some way to get some urge out of my system because I don't know if it's a short term lust or if I really am on a more fluid spectrum of sexuality. I'm really nervous about everything and just want to be able to speak to like-minded people who have had similar struggles. thanks everyone.
Hello Morar! Welcome to EmpyClosets! This is a safe place, and you can ask any questions you have without worrying about others. We're glad you're here! I'm sorry to hear about your struggles. I just discovered myself this year, so I understand what you're going through. If you ever need to talk to someone, feel free to post on my wall at any time, and I'll get back to you as soon as I can! (*hug*) Welcome to the Family! I hear the weather on Hushabye Mountain is lovely this time of dream!
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Hello! Welcome to EC! I've been struggling with the same thing for a while. I once fell in love eith a guy. He didn't love me back but it took me a year to loose my feelings for him. Since then my desire of being in a relationship was bigger than with a man but idk I never fell in love again, so I'll see. May I ask whereabouts you're living in Germany right now? And how do you find it here? I'm from Saxony.
Hallo, du liebes das Wasser? Salutations, I welcometh thee to the community, and I am always willing to assist thee in the process of realizing thy romantic and sexual orientations as I am attempting to do the same as well. Art thou familiar with the Kinsey Scale?
