Hello everyone my name is Tim and I am unsure of who I really am. I am 47 years old and married for 24 years with three wonderful kids. When I was younger I use to dress up as a woman use make up and even bought a wig. I continued to do this through my teenage years but I still went out with girls. When I hit my twenties I would drive around dressed as a woman wanting so much to be one. Then I met my wife and for 8 years I stopped doing it and raised my family. But the last 16 years the want and need to be a woman came back. I have not had sex with my wife in that time frame and have started dressing as a woman again. Id like to know if this is who I am or am I just fantasizing and its causing a rift in my marriage. Has anyone had a situation like this? Should I consult with a therapist? I wish I had my answers but I don't know what to do and I could use a little direction.
Hi and welcome to the site! It does sound like you may have some things relating to your gender that you'd want to talk through or sort out, and that they might have some significance for you. You mention the want/need to be a woman, which might be an indicator of your gender and that you might be trans. Keep in mind that you can definitely be a woman and still want to be with girls. However, I can't conclude from reading this alone, and am just offering a few initial thoughts. This will take some time to figure out, and that's completely okay. A gender therapist, one that is accepting and educated about trans and gender issues, can be a good idea if you're able to approach one. There's a sub-forum on here especially for gender that you may want to post in (maybe with some more details we can definitely offer some insight!) - Gender Identity and Expression Best of luck. (*hug*)
Thank you that helps. I have been really down lately and I need people that I can talk to about this. I have to find one that can tell me more Im just tired of making mistakes and don't want to make more Thank you so much I will post in that forum and hope I can figure out if thats what I need to do.
No problem my friend. You definitely aren't alone in this, and along with a gender therapist (if that's possible for you), you can always have this site as a place to talk safely about these things. Take care!
You aren't alone, I'm nearly your age and I'm still trying to understand what gender identity means to me.
Thanks it helps to know that there are older people like me that is still trying to understand and know who i really am
Thank you for making me feel welcome I hope to be a good member of this site. You all have done a great job making me feel welcome
for me as long as there's no shadow being stepped on, your on your right track and besides you can still be a good parent to your children no matter what your preference are. even you're a gay, there's nothing wrong for being a gay, sometimes gay has balls compared to the straight one keep blossoming my friend
If I am who I feel I am it will be much easier to talk with my kids. I know in my heart two of the three will be okay with my decision it will ne my oldest. That will be my biggest fear of losing my oldest daughter. I know it may come to that but i must take care of this step by step. I got step one and now with dome time and a little work step two will be close. Thank you for your encouragement as always.
Thank you for the nice welcome I always knew the first step would be the hardest but as it turns out the first that was one of the easiest talking about my feelings on here has been really easy it's with people like you who provide support and understanding is what will get me through thank you again
