20 years old and really questioning myself about my sexuality

I have always known I am gay, so I can't help you there. But I am sure there are others out there who can.

Welcome to EC

 

Well, I'm so strong at my own opinions, but about my sexuality this happened. I kinda didn't like the term "gay", even being aroused by guys. Yes, I had a lot of fantasies, but mostly with guys. Girls wouldn't turn me on since 11 (when I first saw a guy nude on magazine). It's not that it turned me gay or something, but I was having the first experience with masturbation and etc.

I believe we have this interference from society about how should we act, wear and love. So anything different than this sounds like a sin, a mistake, because we've been raised this way, listen to this hate all the time. It's something that became part of our personality.

I don't really believe that someone "born straight" cannot have interest in the same sex, or someone "born gay" to eventually lost interest in the same sex. Can you see that point?

Define ourselves is limiting ourselves. If today I'm aroused to girls, ok. Tomorrow maybe not. Nothing wrong about it. I consider myself gay because most of the time, only men turns me on, but as I said, from the beginning of the world, I was interested in women body (but probably because I didn't know how was a male body, i don't know). So sexuality is this volatile thing, in my opinion, of course. But if you are having hard times define yourself, just do what makes you happy at that moment, don't worry about labels.

But, If you are so crazy about it, I would say you are bi? Right? This moment, i guess. It happens often? What turns you on? Boys, girls or both? And about the relationship, I guess you cannot be in love with everyone in the world, so one day a good person may be the perfect candidate for you. Love is more timid then sexual desires, i believe. You said "wrong path", maybe because of you are not "gay" exactly, but bi? I donno, you may find the reason. Stay cool

 

Hi welcome to Ec to answer your question only You can answer your sexuality I can give you some pointers Who do you feel Romanticlly attracted too? If you could travel the world with a sexy guy or woman or both what would you choose? Who would u rather have sex with? You could be sexually attracted to Guys but romantically attracted to females if you do g want to label yourself you don't have to there are lots of people that don't label themselves as it causes so much stress and that's perfectly fine too I hope I helped some

 

What you are going through is perfectly normal. You are just figuring yourself out. (some people never figure themselves out)

When I was going through that process, I found it helpful to forget about putting a label on myself.

 

If I had to guess based on the information you have given, I would say you sound like a bisexual heteroromantic. This is far from unheard of.

Alternatively if you want to look at this by sexual orientation alone, (without romantic orientation) I think the good Dr. Kinsey could be of help.

I'd place you as a kinsey 2 more than likely. This means your primary attraction is heterosexual, but you have significant homosexual attractions as well (albeit secondary.)

Just remember that nobody can tell you what your sexuality is, only you can decide that. Also remember that labels aren't the end all. You don't have to label yourself at all if you don't want to.

 

I heard this little test on Will & Grace. Karen was asking Will to see if he was still gay. Ok if a penis and a vagina were both in a tent and it was on fire which do you save? I'm totally joking, I think your stressing yourself out, take your time to figure it out if your straight cool, bi great more opportunities lol, gay welcome to the brotherhood

 

That pretty much sums up how I've been feeling since I was like 16 or so... Don't put a label on yourself unless you need to for your own head. I'm learning a lot about this new world of feelings and it seems there is no "straight" answer... I've heard it referred to as fluid and I like that term. It may change with your mood, the weather, what he or she is wearing... take time to explore your feelings. Ground, center and breath. You don't have to have an answer today. I just turned 20 and I have questions too. I hope you find what you're looking for. There are a lot of great people here.

 

Hi, welcome to the forum!