Hey all, I'm new here and joined because wanted to see if i can find some cool tips/advices from people with similar situations. Im 23 years old guy from Finland and I'm bi. Nobody knows about this (except few random people in US, lol) and atm I feel like I wont be able to come out ever, like ever. I just feel it would cause too much destruction of relationships between me and also other people. Anyone in similar situation? I'm studying my masters in business management and planning to graduate within a year. I do kickboxing and gym 4-6 days a week. I also love food, movies, series and chilling with friends etc I listen to different types of music, electronic music is my thing right now. I'm happy with my life and doing good, but my situation bothers me... Hoping I can find some helpful views here to help me solve this problem!
Hey, I am not a 23 year old. But, I like to welcome you! First of all I am only out to a few people about my sexual orientation and even less about my gender etc. If coming out is a huge this for you then you could casually explain to some close friends first. With me I was asked by my Mother about my sexual orientation, so I never really had the desire to full on come out. But, when I did come out to people I found it easier to start with people you think will be accepting and pretty chill. Anyway, welcome. I'm glad you are doing well.
Hey! Thank you for sharing your experience. In my situation I feel I cant risk telling anyone because the word might travel... And it would have horrible consequences. My parents are amazing but also very religious and same with my relatives. They`re also in positions which might be at risk if people would know about their son...those conservative circles... Also my friends seem homophobic, I guess because here where I live people are very homogeneous and being gay/bi or whatever, is not very common.. So coming out would not only ruin relationships between me and some people, but also cause harm to others.. dno :/
I'm sorry to hear that. It's understandable why you would not want to share though. I get it. My Mother's side of the family is very religious and such, so I am not sure what I am going to do about them. Of course you don't have to come out or anything until you are ready. (I mean my parents and mannnny people still don't know about my gender stuff.) But, when you do if your friends don't accept you then maybe it's time to get some new ones. It's better to be surrounded by love rather then hate.