Hello to all! I'm an ace/aro/agender individual, hence the nick, living in the Blue Ridge mountains of VA. I'm older (50s) and definitely wish that these defs had been around when I was in my teens. Things would have been clearer perhaps. As it were, I struggled with being AFAB and queer, came out as lesbian, was trans before I knew the term. I remember telling my mother that I was NOT a girl! Trouble was, I didn't want to be a boy, either. I wanted to be an IT. Relationships have been problematic. I just didn't get the whole hearts and flowers thing. Then I read about asexuality and aromanticism. A light went on! I had figured out the agender thing-I had been listing "librarian" as my gender for a long time and using they/their/them pronouns. My friends all just thought I was weird, lol. Sometimes I get lonely. I feel like the poster child for queer here in the small town where I live, though as small Appalachian towns go, it's pretty liberal. But I do stand out, with my buzzed cobalt hair, androgynous clothing, and Docs. I'll educate people, if they ask. Oh, and another a-atheist!
Hail and well met. I actually discovered the term graysexual yesterday myself and a light bulb went off. I thought I had myself pegged as ace...but having read up the difference between it and grace, I realized the latter is where I am in the spectrum.