I have been married to the same woman for 17 years and have two children. My wife is one of two women I have ever dated and had sex with. I have had the same number of relationships with men (purely sexual) before getting married. Over the years, I have chatted online in gay chat rooms and have viewed gay porn regularly. I have never acted on my same sex attraction in real life since being married, and only had the urge periodically. However, as my marriage had become primarily sexless, this urge has become stronger. This has also become more apparent since I quit drinking . The feelings have become more real. Not sure how I identify on the sexual scale ( I would have always said straight/bi-curious). Just at a point of real confusion and need guidance/support.
