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  1. yenica

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    Hi! :smilewave

    I reached out to this site not too long ago about my identity and that let myself see me. If that makes sense. I'm not out to anyone, but I want to tell my mom as soon as I see her.

    I hope to contribute to the site, somehow... After I get myself figured out? :icon_bigg
     
  2. Bobsleigh1

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    Welcome to EC, bud~! And we wish you good luck in coming out!
     
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    Welcome to EC, yenica!:slight_smile: Best of luck on coming out to your mom! We support you!:thumbsup:
     
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    Hello there everyone,
    I am Jewel and only some friends know I am bi. My grandma I don't know how to tell her because she is so strong in her faith. And she believes it is wrong. I have tried to talk to her with out telling her, but I don't think she will understand. She won't disown me or anything like that. But she will get out the bible and read what it says. And that annoys me a lot. I don't know what to do. I want her to know but at the same time I don't want her to.
    What should I do?
    -Jewel
     
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    Welcome :smilewave

    Just being here and posting means that you are contributing to this forum as knowing that there are others out there with similair problems to our own can help a lot :slight_smile:

    When will you next be seeing your mom?
     
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    Actually, right about... now... I was so sure that I could just say it but I'm feeling really nervous now... :/
     
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    Welcome to EC :slight_smile:
     
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    Its sometimes hard to give advice on coming out as different things work for different people. Have you ever 'come out' to yourself - ie said it outloud to yourself before? Sometimes that helps beforehand.
    It may also help to first tell your mom that there is something you want to tell her but you cant... then she can coax it out of you.
    Also, sometimes its easy to just not think. Just blurt it out. Dont think about what the words mean; just say them because you have to.

    Anyway, :goodluck:
     
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    I hadn't said it out loud to myself or anyone or anything. I couldn't bring myself to say it but I guess I was stressed enough that she kept guessing. I'm really glad she didn't just decide to go to bed... We were both about to.
     
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    My advice is that you should go and look in a mirror when no one else is around and come out to yourself. Say the words out loud - a few times if need be. Coming out to yourself is a huge step.

    Good luck x
     
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    Welcome to EC! :0)
     
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    Oh, I told her. Well, she asked the question as I was about to write it down for her.
     
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    Oh, I see. Well congratulations then! (!):thumbsup:

    How did it go?
     
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    Welcome to the forum! :slight_smile:
     
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    Better than I could have hoped! She asked what I wanted and we talked and went to bed. It wound up being midnight with school the next morning, but it was a huge relief for someone besides me and the internet to know. Now we're looking for a therapist and we're going to talk to my doctor and we're going to get some clothes for me tonight! :slight_smile:
     
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    Congrats!! :thewave::stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride: