Greetings

Hello everyone. I came here in search of advice, acceptance, understanding, and clarity. I have been reading a few threads so far, and have found some very helpful posts about similar situations to mine. I really didn't know where to turn, so here I am. I will be diving in at some point to get started, but this is a great start, I think. I am here, for starters. I have just started to come out as lesbian, and my situation is very difficult to get a grip on. I have been feeling very lost, depressed, and terrified of what the future will bring. I am hoping for the best, but preparing for the worst. I will dive into more detail once I have had the "big talk" with my hetero partner tonight, with whom I just celebrated a five year anniversary recently. I am 33 years old and have a nine year old son, and my partner has been a wonderful stepfather to him, as my son and I narrowly escaped from an abusive marriage before we met. I recently opened a business and am almost 100% financially dependent on my partner. He is a wonderful person, and has been very supportive and understanding so far, but the big, scary, sad part is figuring out how we are going to move forward from here with so many major factors that could change everything in our entire family's life. We are going to sit down and talk it through tonight after my son goes to bed, so please, any thoughts, prayers, good juju for the best outcome for everyone in my family would be greatly appreciated. My heart is breaking, and I am already regretting coming out, but realistically I know that despite how much I love my hetero partner, big changes have to take place in order for both of us to be happy and the most compassionate thing we can do for each other is to draw the line in the sand wherever that will have to be. <3

 

Thank you all very much for the warm welcome! We did have our talk last night, and I think it went pretty well. I am so lucky to have a partner who is so understanding and willing to stay by my side while I work through all of this.