Hey EC. I'm a 17 gay dude from Melbourne, Australia... so far out to about three people, one of whom is my current boyfriend. I knew he was gay so I figured he'd understand and wouldn't react badly when I came out, so he was the first I told. I had liked him a lot for quite a while, but had been to afraid to tell him. When I came out he told me that he liked me, so I confessed that I liked him as well, and thus began a happy and really awesome relationship. The only problem is, we have to keep it a secret as we go to a conservative private school so we can't be caught holding hands, hugging, kissing etc at school. Also I'm not ready to tell many more of my friends because although they'd accept it they'd still find it fucking weird and wouldn't really think of me the same. Whilst I am completely attracted to guys, I struggle to accept myself as gay because I don't identify with any of the gay male stereotypes whatsoever. I'm not camp, I'm not feminine, I'm not flamboyant (not that I have a problem with people who are)... in fact I'm pretty conservative-acting. I know stereotypes aren't important, but I am so loath to associate myself with a demographic which is dominated by images I don't identify with at all. Anyway, nice forum. I just figured I'd introduce myself, so hey.
hi im adam its good you found a nice guy for yourself. im sorry you cant openly express your love its very conservative here too and as far as flamboyant goes dont worry i aint were gay thats only sex it needent define us were all individuals with unique personalitys and tastes in the world. i hope you enjoy the forum take care x
welcome to the site,and congrats on coming out to someone special you really care for,thats great,we are all individuals and have our own way of just being who we are,two weeks ago i would have laughed in your face had you asked if i were gay,but coming to terms of my own sexuality,i really found a new sense of belonging a new spirit so to say,having a boyfriend who is so patient in my own developement has been really great for me,i feel blessed to be able to develope my individuality at a slow and careful pace,i wish you the best in your future coming outs and your relationship grows healthy and strong ,best of luck buddy.
Hi and welcome to EC! Glad you decided to join EC and congratulations on accepting your sexual identity and that you could confide in a couple of friends. Welcome aboard!
