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Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by biguy94, Nov 8, 2016.

  1. biguy94

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    Hello, I joined this forum to hopefully speak with likeminded individuals who have had similar experiences to myself. I posted a sort of 'agony aunt' thread but it doesn't appear to be there, has it been deleted or does it need to be approved first?

    Thanks and I look forward to utilising the forums :slight_smile:
     
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    Welcome to EC :slight_smile:
     
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    Thank you, do you know anything about the posting regulations/approval for threads?
     
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    Hi biguy94! Welcome to EC!:slight_smile:

    The rules for the site are the Code of Conduct, which can be found through a link on the Welcome page. If you have a question about your thread that disappeared, you can go the Forum page and go down to Ask the Staff near the bottom of the page. You can post a thread to the Staff there to ask about your missing thread.
     
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    I have read the code of conduct and believe I have followed the rules accordingly, but even my last reply to you here has gone?

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    As in, I typed it and submitted it, but it said it was under review? But that one I just posted was fine?
     
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    A previous post you made on this thread also disappeared?

    Have you created a thread in the Ask the Staff forum to inquire about your missing thread?
     
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    It appears some posts are being 'moderated for approval' whereas others aren't. I just wrote one and it went to automatic approval...

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    I will try again- Yes I made a thread in the Ask Staff Forum, my original thread was in the family, friends and relationships thread as I was asking for advice. It was a very long post.
     
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    As far as I know, the Staff doesn't normally hold posts for moderation. But you can only find out what happened by asking the Staff.
     
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    I've just posted my thread without any issue, strange. Not sure if this one will.
     
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    Was your first thread called "Best friend deserted me?"
     
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    No, it had a longer thread title, do you think that was it? But what about some of the ones on this thread?

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    However it is essentially still the same post with a shortened title.
     
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    I don't think the length of the title should have been an issue.

    But I can't speak for what the Staff did or didn't do to your original thread or any posts on this thread, although I would be inclined to guess that if posts on this thread are missing, you may not have posted them correctly - i.e. you may have hit something wrong on whatever device you are using to access EC.

    But I'm just another user and only the Staff can give you the ground truth.:slight_smile:

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    Ah, I just saw another thread by you that showed up called "Friend of 18 years blocked me out of his life after 10 months of sexual interaction?" Is that your missing thread?
     
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    Yes, and now there are 2 threads with exactly the same content but under different title names... I'm really really sorry about this and feel like a nuisance newbie, so I hope one of the threads can be deleted. Again, sorry about this!!
     
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    No need to be sorry.

    Just go to the red outlined triangle with the exclamation mark in it on the first post in which ever thread you want to delete and click on it. That will report the thread to the Staff. You can write that you, as the original poster, want them to delete that thread because it is a duplicate.