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Hello EC

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by efg, Jan 5, 2017.

  1. efg

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    Hello,

    My name is Eric, i am 44 years old. I was married 16 years and I have two beautiful children, 8 and 4.
    I came out to my wife last November after a couple of months of serious identity crisis and almost depression.
    I always was attracted to guys but managed to block those thoughts and ignore the feelings, and I like girls enough that I could date them and eventually even married.
    But recently as I took time to reflect on my life, all those feelings and memories and even some of my youth experiences came all back to me and made me realize who I was.
    And after going through several of the stages described on this site, i eventually told my wife that I was gay.
    It's only been just over a month and I have an apartment just a few minutes away from where our house is. I see my kids everyday, I still see my wife everyday. Our relationship is somewhat still good most times.
    And I am starting to form a community of friends around me.
    I haven't come out to my parents and don't feel I ever will and I haven't come out to most of my friends yet as I don't know if I will be able to or even if it is necessary.
    I just finished watching the documentary "Coming out" released recently and it gave me a real and new sense of pride. And an awkward and unexpected feeling that I wasn't alone.
    So it's still in the process of slowly accepting and learning that I say Hello EC. :slight_smile:
     
  2. TJ

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    Hey there, Eric! :slight_smile: Welcome to EC. Glad to hear that you're starting to accept yourself and I'm glad things are going well for you. I hope you enjoy the community we have here!
     
  3. jadey95

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    Welcome to EC. :slight_smile: That's wonderful you're accepting yourself.
     
  4. Quantumreality

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    Hello Eric! Welcome to EC!:slight_smile: I wish you all the best in your new life! And you are definitely not alone; you have friends here on EC who understand what you are going through and can provide advice and moral support.
     
  5. CROSSY ROAD

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    Welcome to EC! It's nice that you've had such a good connection with your family still.
     
  6. Lynz

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    Hi Eric!

    Big welcome to EC!!!
     
  7. Aeon Magus

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    Hello, Eric, and welcome to EC. ^_^
     
  8. Silver Sparrow

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    Welcome to EC, Eric. I hope you find the community here helpful!
     
  9. fluxwildly

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    Welcome, Eric! I'm new here too and people are very helpful and friendly.