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New Member, still in the closet.

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by Winter Storm, Feb 23, 2017.

  1. Winter Storm

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    I've known I liked girls since 10 or 12. It was around 12, I had my first girl kiss. I grew up in a very strict religion. I now know it for the high-control group (cult) that it is. I have only recently left it, just over a year now.

    My sexuality was never a huge issue, I liked boys too. I got married and had kids. My husband knows I like women as well. But it wasn't until after my kids were born that I discovered asexuality. I'm also grey-ace. I've always been a bit confused about sexuality and others sex drives. Since sex before marriage was forbidden, it wasn't really something I thought of, but the truth is I have rarely been sexually attracted to anyone. I can think of two people I have been sexually attracted to amd to be honest, I'm not sure my husband is one of them.

    Generally, I find myself romantically and/or asthetically attracted to people. People I know, friends usually. Looking into the details of orientation also leqd me to question my gender. As a kid I was tomboyish, never really comfortable being girly. But any kind of experimentation was frowned on. My step-dad freaked out once because I tucked my hair up under my hat as a kid.

    I described myself as maybe genderfluid, to some friends recently, even though my expression has been largely female. I never truly feel completely male, but at times I do feel androgyne, other times i feel more agender and the rest of the time I guess demigirl, although I don't care for the girl part. Is demi-femme, a word?

    I'm an introvert and have only a few friends, none of which live in the same town as me. I don't have any friends in the LGBT+ community yet.
     
  2. Quantumreality

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    Hello Winter Storm! Welcome to EC!:slight_smile:
     
  3. actualdust

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    Hey, welcome to EC! :slight_smile: