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55 and questioning

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by Piston, Mar 9, 2017.

  1. Piston

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    Hi,

    Hello all. Just saw my hundredth therapist in my life and he flat out told me I was probably gay. Married and three young teenage daughters. Never have done anything with same sex. I could go on and on but I am at my wits end. Seriously depressed about this where I went to speak with a crisis counsellor today and sobbed away at my situation.

    I live in a small town and he suggested I seek support but very little here. So here I am on this sight again. So confused and scared. Good family and really don't want to,wreck it. Would like some feedback from others going through this. I still can't picture myself as gay.

    Thanks.
     
  2. Worker Bee

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    Hi there. I am sorry you're going through this and no doubt feeling alone. Can I ask why your latest therapist thinks you might be gay?
     
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    Easy to relate to you Piston. I live in a small town..married...I don't think bi applies anymore to me. I feel any guy that says three words to me is a closet gay..and of course they aren't. I'm sure I will go insane!
     
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    Hi,

    Never had a satisfying sexual experience with opposite sex. Therefore he feels I must be gay. Yes I do feel lonely.
     
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    Feel free to talk to me whenever you want/need.

    That's a tough one. I've not really had any satisfying sexual experiences with women, however I know I would never have sex with someone with male genitalia.

    I think with me it's more to do with my own hangup and trust issues. Plus I would never have had the confidence to tell someone what I wanted/needed from them.

    Do you feel attracted to men in any way?