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Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by PalindromeMary, Apr 6, 2017.

  1. PalindromeMary

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    Hello!

    I'm incredibly new to this (accidentally already posted in a channel not realising this was where we say hey!). This is a big and very scary step for me.

    I'm in my twenties, and have always thought of myself as straight. I've very very recently got out of a long term relationship (with a guy) and before that had had a couple of serious long term relationships (again all guys). At the same time though, thinking back I feel like I've always been slightly interested in women.

    I kissed a friend of mine at college (a girl) and was aroused. But I just thought that's because we were kissing and it had nothing to do with her gender. I find myself looking at the women in porn and always appreciating their bodies way more than men. I've been watching a netflix series recently about a couple who bring in a younger girl for a threesome (though it's all about how it subsequently goes wrong) I was seriously attracted to the idea of being with both a guy and a girl.

    At the moment I'm considering the fact I might be bi. I think I'd like the opportunity to explore my sexuality but the idea of having to tell people or come out fills me with dread. I have no idea how you go about meeting a girl, or how you even know if anyone is interested! It just feels totally new territory.

    Besides all that stuff I'm into reading, drawing and watching telly. I've got a group of lovely friends and family and I love my job. It's great to meet you all x
     
  2. Silver Sparrow

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    Welcome to EC, PalindromeMary!
     
  3. Quantumreality

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    Hello PalindromeMary! Welcome to EC!:slight_smile:

    The transition to understanding that we are NOT heterosexual can be both terrifying and traumatic at times. But you've taken a key step by simply recognizing that you might not be straight.

    No one here can tell you what your sexuality really is - only you can truly KNOW that. We can only advise you based on our own experiences. But we can at least sympathize, empathize, help, and, most importantly, support you on your journey to self-discovery of your sexual reality.
     
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  4. PalindromeMary

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    Thank you both!! Nice to meet you :slight_smile:
     
  5. Worker Bee

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    Hey there. Welcome to EC.

    The people here are friendly and supportive. And it's a safe and accepting place to discover who you are.