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Old 15th May 2017, 04:08 AM   #1
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hey & hello !

Can't believe I found a site like this. Clean. A great purpose. Safe. No pressures to do anything but be a good member. I really like that.

I'm a gay man. 99 % in the closet. I grew up totally unaware I was "gay". Lived in a controlled home. Knew nothing about the world. Joined the military. Man, was I not ready! Lived in a rough neighborhood. The other kids and a few adults knew I was girly acting and messed with me about it. I held my books like a girl. Was happier hanging out with the girls. Playing with dolls. Fixing hair on my sisters dolls and.....

Got tired of the bullying in middle school. Got mean. Started acting "like a boy". Started fighting the bullies. Didn't care how many there were. Found out that they don't like it when the bullied goes for it with flying fist. I cried when I found a private place to cry. I hated it. But I just learned to live with it.

I did my time in the military honorably. Made friends with a bunch of gay dudes. Fell in love. Was slowly coming out. The AIDS tragedy hit. All my friends got AIDS. INCLUDING the gentle sweet young man I fell for.

I went deep into the closet. Got married. She left me. I finished raising my awesome kids

Not long ago my one of my daughters texted me and said, out of the blue, that I would make a great drag queen. Wow, I wasn't expecting that. Got me to thinking.

I think finding others who understand, live the life is important to me. Yes, I know. Too much intro. It's who I am.
Bullies, one can find them everywhere. They all use the same sword called fear. No remorse. Then one day, all the humiliating memories, beatings, the solo crying, the taunts, the laughing.. Something happens. That particular type of fear dies. I wake up. . I ball my fist.
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Old 15th May 2017, 06:13 AM   #2
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Re: hey & hello !

Hi there. I'm Cam. Welcome to EC.

The people here are friendly and supportive and it's a great place to talk to people from the whole rainbow spectrum.

I'm so sorry to hear you lost your love.

Sounds like you've raised some great kids.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt
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Old 19th May 2017, 08:33 PM   #3
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Hey man, message me if you need anything. I'm raising an awesome kid myself.
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Old 19th May 2017, 10:08 PM   #4
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Hello pinkAchilles! Welcome to EC!
Reality is what you make of it. It isn't inherently good or bad. Only you can make your reality better (or worse) for yourself through your actions and your attitude.
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Old 19th May 2017, 11:28 PM   #5
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"Know thyself."
"Don't believe everything you think."
"Happiness isn't having what you want - it's wanting what you have."
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