Hey all, I'm Jack. I know, you hear it all the time, but I'm not gonna lie, even this is a big step for me. I'm scared as hell lol. The reason why I think this is so hard for me, is I'm in a punk band.. and generally I have that kinda stereotypical image to live up to. Every day is just so difficult, because I sooo badly wanna tell people, but I can't, or more like I don't feel I can. I just want the weight lifted off my shoulders, but don't want the negative consequences. If i'm honest with my self, I've known I was gay for ever, but I convinced my self I liked girls for a long time (phooooawwww she's mega hot!!!!! kinda thing ) but I dont. So here I am. More of the problem is I know my family will be totally cool with it, but I still don't feel I have the confidence to do it, or like I said before, I'm not sure if I prefer my life with people not knowing or if I'll prefer it more if everyone knows. I also have tourrettes syndrome which if you don't know is a thing where you have involuntary tics. These get worse with like how nervous I am or excited or whatever. More recently I have gotten them more uncontrollably and I genuinely and now concerned that I'm just going to say something without meaning it. I'd prefer to tell people willingly. I am sorry for going on, I've just had it all on my chest. Thanks for listening Jack
Hullo, and Welcome to EC. =) And it is up to you to decide what choice you wish to follow... but, wouldn't you feel better getting it off your chest?
Welcome to EC! You found a great place to work things out. One of the best bit of advice I got was to come out at your own pace. Just relax (I know it may be hard to do) and hang out for a while.
Hey Jack, welcome EC.I got a question,since when punks can't be gay? Whats the meaning of being punk, if you will be just what people expect you to be? I mean, you are punk, not a country singer.Am i wrong? Also you don't have to say anything until you are sure u want to.People tell you that they are straight? :icon_wink
Hey, once again thanks all for such a warm welcome. misunderstood: Its stereotypes, I guess. I see your point, but punk is in a way a close minded scene. You don't get accepted for what you are, you get accepted for what you aren't, if that makes any sense? I want to tell people, thats the problem. When you feel you have an "image" to be like, then you don't wanna change it. I like my life now, infact I love it.. I just wonder if it'll be better without people knowing or if they know. I want to be able to be my self though. Sorry I go on a bit haha. Jack
Welcome to EC! Hope we can help you figure it all out! Besides consider yourself lucky, I know alot of guys who like punk boys
