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My intro brings all the ECers to my thread. Damn right, its better than yours.

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  1. Robert

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    Ugh, I cant believe I'm 20 years old. Thats like a quarter of my life that I have lived not knowing who I actually am.

    Its hard for me to introduce myself because I barely know myself.

    Anyway, I'm 20 years old, from the United Kingdom. I dont know if I'm a virgin or not. I dont know whether I'm gay or not. I dont know whether I'm sexually normal, even within the LGBT community, or not. I dont know whether I want any kind of partner or not. I dont know if I should ever come out to any more people or not. I dont know who I fancy even when I think I might like them. I masturbate almost every single night while thinking about a variety of things and I am almost certain that I am not attracted to a few of them.

    Any questions?
     
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    Hellur! welcome to EC.

    well that certainly is a slight problem isn't? well if it makes you feel any better, when i masturbate, i'm not thinking of anything, my mind is either clear and i keep my eyes shut, or i'm looking every where. and i'm sure at your age, and being a male, that not knowing if you want a mate or not is normal, i know plenty of guys who wish not to even find a gf or bf at this moment in time.

    i'm not sure how to really help you, as i am a girl, and doesn't know everything about men!

    but anywhoo, welcome to EC! :grin:
     
    #2 whiterosebeka, Jun 7, 2011
  3. NerdishOne

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    I'm loving the Kelis reference.

    It sucks that you're so confused. I hope you can work some of that stuff out soon.
     
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    Would you teach me? Or would you have to charge?

    Welcome to EC! I have a feeling you might get a clearer picture as time goes on. :slight_smile:

    Lex
     
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  5. Robert

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    Thanks for the welcomes everybody :slight_smile:

    Dont you ever think of anything sexually exciting when you do it?

    I was hoping someone would appreciate it :icon_wink

    Eh? Teach you what?

    + Your avatar rules.
     
    #5 Robert, Jun 7, 2011
  6. TheEdend

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    Welcome to EC! :slight_smile:

    You have tons of questions, but hopefully we can help you figure some of them out. Feel free to start a thread about any particular question if you want more responses about them :slight_smile:
     
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    nope, nothing. i mean i can watch a porn, and that'll help my excitement levels, or look at a picture. (i'm not really the type to be able to picture things in my head, like in school they'd tell you to close your eyes and think of a particular thing, and all i'd get was darkness. hince why i suck at drawing but rock at music i guess) so, i just concentrate on the way it feels most of the time.
     
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    Heyo, welcome to EC!
    Awesome thread title. :grin:
     
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    Hello, welcome to EC! :slight_smile:

    You're definitely in the right place to get some help with all of those questions.
     
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    Hey welcome to EC.
     
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    Thank you for the welcomes!

    Thats cool. I love hearing how other people do things. It broadens my horizons. :slight_smile:

    Thats how I roll! :lol:

    People have been very helpful already. :slight_smile:
     
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    You mention that you don't know if you're sexually normal "even within the LGBT community." If you feel comfortable elaborating on that, perhaps we can help you figure that piece out.

    As for not being sure if you want a partner... that would go along with not knowing your sexual orientation yet. It's a little hard to get your hands around having sex with a guy if the idea of having sex with a guy is still scary because what it says about your sexual orientation. And I'm guessing that maybe girls just aren't very attractive to you so if that's the case, I can see why you wouldn't want to have sex with a girl.

    You also mention masturbating to a bunch of different things, and wondering what your attractions are to those. Again, if you feel comfortable sharing in more detail about that, we can better help you place that in terms of what it might mean for your sexuality.

    As for coming out... the fact that you are talking about coming out sort of tends to indicate that part of you realizes you aren't straight. So that's probably a good thing. But coming out is something you should probably wait on until you are comfortable with who you are. There's no rush.
     
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    welcome to EC :slight_smile:
     
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    I'll make a thread on this later on. Thanks for the encouragement :slight_smile:

    Thanks.
     
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    Okay so this is the best introduction thread title I have ever read. XD
    Welcome :grin: Hope EC helps you work it all out ^^
     
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    Welcome =)
     
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    Haha :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: Thanks guys :slight_smile:

    EC has helped me out a lot in the short time I've been here :slight_smile::slight_smile:
     
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    Hey, welcome to EC. Hope you find what you want to here.

    You don't know whether your gay or not. Try this: get rid of any preconceptions you might have (such as internalised homophobia and other people's opinions) and just relax. Then try and ask yourself the questions do I like men? and do I like women? because generally speaking, its as simple as that, and what comes in the way of accepting your sexuality is the rest of the world.

    You don't know whether you are sexually normal. Who the hell cares? You'll find that we're a very accepting community when it comes to who you like. Anyway, what would be considered sexually abnormal? According to mainstream society, we are all abnormal (and btw, heterosexuality is not normal, its just common.)

    Let your issues with partners come later. It can be confusing to know whether or not you want a partner if you don't even know what your attracted to. It could be that your much more into romance than actual sex, but whatever you feel, it doesnt matter.

    Don't come out to the world until your sure about what and who you really like, but come out to friends as questioning if you think their suport will help you.

    I can't really help you with the other stuff, but I hope someone else can.

    P.S, awesome thread title. And awesome custom title as well.
     
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    Thanks :slight_smile: I'm still trying to figure out whether I'm attracted to girls in any serious way. I know that I'm attracted to guys.

    Thanks for adding me as a friend :grin:
     
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    Okay, I normally neglect to post in introduction threads, but I can't help posting in this one. It's guilty of locking my mind on that song for the better part of a day now.

    So, very much welcome to EC! It seems you're feeling quite at home already!

    I am curious at how an anarchist ends up with a military title like corporal, though :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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