Hi everyone! I am new here. Let me tell you a little about myself. I am a 54 year old married guy that had a relationship with my roommate in college. At the time I thought it was a way to be satisified when I wasn't in a relationship with a lady. I have been missing satisfying and being satisfied with another man. I do love my wife and know it would devistate her if she knew how I felt. That being said I have no idea what to do. Jim
Hi, Jim, and welcome to EC. We have a lot of people in this community who are struggling with similar issues to yours, and it's always a challenge. I'll make two suggestions: 1. Get yourself a copy of Joe Kort's amazing book "Ten Smart Things Gay Men can do to Find Real Love." Available used from Bookfinder.com, or in the "large print" edition from Amazon (out of print in the regular edition.) This book, while having very little to do with the title, has several chapters dealing with heterosexually married gay men, and the issues and difficulties they face, and how to come to terms with and deal with those issues. It also is a wonderful self-work book that will help you examine and understand yourself and your own feelings. (Keep in mind that I'm not saying you are gay in suggesting this book; you might be bi, or you might be gay, or somewhere on the spectrum, but this book will help in any case.) 2. I'd repost the above posting in the "Support and Advice" section where more people will read it and you'll get more responses from others who have been or are currently going through what you've been through. What you're experiencing is a challenge and will have moments where it won't be easy, but many others have come through it, and, in fact, often much later in life than you. SO you're far from alone, and EC is a great place to get help and support as you're working through the issues.
