I've been lurking now for a week (I think) getting a feel for this place. Over the years I have learned to distrust forums from personal experiences. But after lurking I have found that this is a nice site that seems to just be there for each other. I know that they all have their issues but I don't see them so I'm fine with that. I'm a 30 year old female that has recently come to question my own sexuality. I have lived a life of a straight woman for a long time. I've never been a girly girl and I never will be. You could probably label me as a butch, though I hate labels. The list of questions I have is forever long and I am dealing with it. My very flamboyant friend is the only one in my circle that knows what i am dealing with right now. I went to him in confidence about my thoughts and the first thing he did was give me a hug and said "Well I was wondering when you were going to come to me" he also referred me to this site and said it would be a good thing for me to look into. The most disturbing part for me is the fact that after 30 years I am only just now asking about my own sexual identity. Makes me feel like I've either missed out on being happy and who I am or I am just a little slow on the go. The one thing I have figured out over time is sexuality is not something that defines you. Its just who you are. It took me several Gay pride parades (supporting my friend) and many long convo's with him and his friends to figure this out. So though I'm questioning myself right now I'm not too worried about it. It will figure its self out with time. So hello and be kind to me :lol:
Hi! Sounds like you are beginning quite a journey. Good luck. Also, there isn't really a set time to question your sexuality. Different people deal with it in different parts of their lives. Hope this forum helps you out with questions you may have... or even just getting to know more people out there who have gone through similar experiences. Like my sociology course says, companionship is important.
First of all, :welcome: to EC! It's not at all odd or disturbing for you to begin questioning your sexuality at your age. This process begins at a different age for everyone. Many others began in their 40s or 50s. It's never too late.
Hi tabeykat! (*hug*) Welcome to EC! I know how you feel, I came out a month before I turned 36 years old this year & I feel like I wasted so much time ignoring how I really was. But I just try to focus myself on the life I have yet to live, just being honest with myself & everyone else, & I feel a bit better that my future will be better! As hard as it is, dont spend too much time thinking about what's already passed, just focus on how you feel & what you want to do with the time ahead of you! (*hug*) And remember, all of us here on EC are always here for you to chat with or lean on for support too... (&&&)
