I've posted in the welcome section of this site a few months ago, but got cold feet and have refrained from posting again. As I previously posted, I am a 35 year old confused married man. I have a 3 year old daughter with my wife of 8 years. I'm completely in love both of them and the life we have together. I'm still attracted to my wife, but I also have an attraction to men. I've been aware of this attraction, which is not simply sexual, since I was a kid and continually debated my sexuality through the years, and although I've always identified more gay than straight, I chose the straight path, but I've felt a little outta step with the straight world. So I'm here now to finally come to terms with who I am and what I want. No matter how frightening it can be I've decided I need this and I need to be honest with my wife. Even if that means we go our separate ways, which is a gut wrenching thought.
Hi Stew, sorry to hear about the cold feet (you should put some socks on I'm sorry I'm not funny) I really hope you find what you're looking for! If you need someone to talk to I'm here, occasionally with helpful advice . . . occasionally!
Hello mate, Welcome to EC! Dr Faustus here: good to meet you! :smilewave There are quite a few married gay men here, whom I can put you in touch with if you want. Otherwise do feel free to talk to me if you need anything. Best, Doctor Faustus.
Welcome! I joined in May but it was not until Nov that I became active here. I reached a point where it became important for me to come out to my wife. And i could not be closetted as it became very lonely and it affected my relationship with my wige. I am curious to hear what prompted you to 'rejoin.' I hear that it was becoming difficult being in your shoes... Feel free to talk more about that (or not). Whatever you feel like posting! Glad you anted here.
I agree, it is quite lonely, and has definitely affected how I relate to my wife. I feel a little guilty and a little embarrassed. She has asked a couple of times in the past if I was gay, and still jokes that I am, but I've always told her I wasn't. So it's a little embarrassing to say so now. She's very open minded, but it's still a tricky situation to tell someone that there is another side to who you are. I'm not sure how she'll respond, and I really don't know what I'm going to tell her. I'm sure that she'll be a little stunned, have doubts about our past, present, future relationship, but she'll be supportive, I hope. I guess I have them too. I'm thinking sometime in January, will be the D-day. What was your wife's reaction, and what/how did you tell her?
Welcome back! Joining to a site like this is one of the biggest steps you can make so congrats on pushing yourself to doing just that. Only gets better from here on We have many members on here who have gone through or are going through similar situations as you so feel free to make a thread about any problem or question you may have. We also have two advisers who were both married and later came out so you can always PM them for anything
