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New here, a woman who loves other irrespective of gender

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by Meerkat, Feb 11, 2012.

  1. Meerkat

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    Where to start....?

    I'm female, in my late 20's, in the UK. I've known since I was about 8 or 9 years old that I was attracted to women (being attracted to blokes developed later), but it's only now that I feel able to confront my issues around my sexuality. I am currently in a relationship with a man, but I have had some (albeit limited) sexual experience with other females, which, tbh, I have always preferred and felt more comfortable/natural with than sex with men (excluding my current and one previous partner, the only two people I've ever been in love with).

    Although I've always known I'm attracted to women, it's something I've always buried as I've felt ashamed - I grew up in an environment where heterosexuality was considered the "norm", although I've had LGB friends, I've always been too ashamed of how I feel to speak to anyone about this - I've finally just started working through my feelings with an understanding counsellor, there is a lot of shame, fear of judgment, guilt, anger, etc there atm. Apart from this counsellor I've told no-one else - the aim at the moment is self acceptance before I can even think of coming out to anyone.

    Glad I've found this site - hoping it proves to be a good source of support :slight_smile:
     
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    That is an awesome thing to aim for! A lot of us here are shooting for the same goal, so you are definitely not alone! :slight_smile: Anyway, welcome, welcome!
     
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    Hey welcome to EC.
     
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    Welcome to EC, Meerkat! :newcolor:
     
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    Welcome to EC.
     
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    Hello and Welcome!!
     
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    Hello and welcome!
     
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    Hi and welcome to EC! Glad you decided to join. Enjoy your visits! :slight_smile:
     
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    Bienvenue! :smilewave
     
  11. stephaniko

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    hey there and I know exactly how you feel, I am the same way :slight_smile: