Hello to you all i found this community yesterday and im so glad i did ,you all seem so lovely most of you are a lot younger than me but hey ho im still eighteen on the inside.are there are any older members out there let me know ,its just so good to find somewhere to chat where its not bordering on a porn site.I think im going to like this site a lot ,i just hope you can all put up with a old codger like me.:smilewave.
Hello and Welcome!! I know that there are some older members here. I'm sure that they will find you!!
Hi :smilewave welcome to EC There deffo are some older members, but there are also a lot of younger members who have some rather insightful things to say
Thank you all for your welcomes ,its really great to have found all these lovely like minded people to chat with,Im still finding my way round the site but i really like it ,your right hml8 you youngsters do have a lot of interesting things to say ,I enjoy the company of young people ,growing up was not the easiest for me its so good to know that things are a lot better for you all,but stll not perfect small victories add up to a big win.
Hi There, Welcome to EC. I'm 57 and came out to my wife last June. Pretty tough thing to do isn't it? Was for me. Over the course of the last year I have come out to most family and friends, and even at work. It's been an interesting journey. I'm still with my wife and just trying to figure out what my future holds. How are you doing with all this.
Hi to you good to know you,Im pleased to hear that you came out to your wife it is very hard to do,have you any chldren? i have three lovely grown up girls,they all know im gay and they still love and support me.My life is not perfect but we have stayed together more for financiel reasons than anything else,we decided when the girls grew up and left home that we would see how an open marriage would work,my wife and i love each other more like very good friends we dont have sex with each other any more,but we both have other close friends who know our situation.what does the future hold for you?how did your wife take it?my wife said she knew i was gay when we first met but she liked me as a person compared to other men she had known,i really hope things work out well for you and i hope we can chat more very soon.:icon_wink
Hi Paul, I don't have kids. Lucky for that ....I guess. My wife took it the best that could be expected. She also said that she wasn't completly surprised. Yes we are also very good friends. The financial thing is a huge problem for us also, like you. I'm not sure what the future holds for us. Time will tell. I look at it like this: It took me 40 plus years to come out so there is no reason that I/we have to make any rash decisions, just give it a little time. So, just curious, how would this open marriage work for the both of you? It has certainly crossed my mind to ask my wife about something like that. I still have a very strong drive that aint going away. I need to be with a man...at least for some occasional fun.
Hi to you jim,The open marriage did work well for a while but it can bring its own problems,I did go out with a few guys to gay bars and clubs it was fine till i met someone i really liked a lot and he liked me,he knew my situation and for a while it worked fine.My wife had a close male friend for a while he also knew the way things were ,it came to the point where my boy friend wanted me to move in with him after a lot of heavy stuff i decided to stay with my wife mainly for practical reasons such as our house and complicated money concerns.some people would say this is wrong but i was older than my boyfriend and i really felt that it was best for the long term,Im not very highly sexed and i have now decided not to become involved sexually with anyone again.Because i spent most of my life in the closet i am just happy to be out to my family and friends and to just be able to be who i really am ,In some respects it would have been easier if my wife had thrown me out but she is a very lovely kind person who loves me for who i am she has been such a help to me she gave me a happy life when i thought it was all pointless,sorry this goes on a bit.
Hey Hey wildpaul. Sounds like we have a lot in common. No matter what others say the money/house/stuff can't be just disregarded. It does make things very complicated. And as to age....well I have been told time and time again on this site that It doesn't matter that I am older and facing starting over again. Well, I guess if I am truly looking to be in a loving relationship with a man then they are right. Is that what I want? Absolutely! Then I think about closing in on retirement and what that would mean....an extension of years! Then trying to find someone that is half as good of a companion as my wife has been! Unlikely but would be more possible if I didn't live in a small community! As to the sex thing...well that never went away, in fact I think it's stronger now than it has ever been. I'm sure it has to do with being freshly out? Anyhoo, I look forward to chatting with you more.
Hi jim,You could be right about the sex thing when i came out i did go a bit crazy for a while,It was like i was born again and it was good to know guys liked me,Some of my gay friends think i have taken the easy way by staying with my wife ,But its very hard to just walk away from what has been your life for so long.Everything i have worked for and saved for when i fully retire is here,At present i am semi retired,I had a very hard childhood i grew up in a very tough part of london and my dad was a very hard man,When i told him i liked boys better than girls he disowend me and said he would kill me if i ever mentioned it again,and he was the sort of man who would have done it.I feel that i have had my share of all the bad stuff,im so happy that the young guys and girls have it slightly easier today,I know things are not perfect but much improved.Im not sure how things are across the water perhaps you can give some idea.Great to talk to you.Paul.
