Hi, I am a bi-sexual male (I think) I have always found woman attractive but it seems over the years I have this increased need for men. Does anybody think it is possible to turn gay? I remember highschool days I was not really intrested in men, there seems to have been a shift, sexually. Normally just walking down the street I tend to notice woman but most of my fantacies involve men. I want to know a woman and love her; while I seem to have devoloped this animal instinct with men, once they get me going I am not myself. Overall I like and need both men and woman for different reasons. I have been with 8 woman and 7 men. I keep tring to sweep my feelings for men under the carpet. Turns out the further I sweep the more I want them. Needless to say I have had a rough run of sexual confusion and am ready to deal with the reality of what I cannot control. I really love woman and for some reason when I hook up with a man it seems to betray my love for woman. I started thinking about men around 17, woman at 12. At first I thought about oral with men now aspects of love are entering the picture "kissing, cuddeling, sex and the unity of two bodies "beautiful thing". Still I seem to think about woman less and men more. Do you guy's think it is possible to turn gay?? Am I?
first of hey welcome to EC and the study of sexuality regarding turning and being born is a very heated topic i think its possible but i cant say for sure have fun and enjoy yourself
Hey welcome to EC I don't think it's possibly to turn gay in the sense that once one is fully developed and mature (I'd guess 21-23 for woman and 25 for men) then I think that if they're going to have feelings for somebody of the same or opposite gender then they will have had feelings even if said feelings are just a small unrecognised stir of genitalia. However I do believe that it is possibly to not realise ones attraction for a long time and that in the sense that somebody can begin to think that maybe they are gay/bi/straight (whatever) then yes they can turn gay. Hope that helped though I'm not sure I've explained what I mean very well. Once more, welcome to EC! I hope you find what you need here
Hello and welcome its good your here theres alot of people here that can help you sort things out,i liked boy s from as young as i can remember but i had to hide my true self for lots of reasons ,i ended up married and have three lovely girls .But in the end i had to be honest with myself and my wife and children,i really like women but i can only really fancy men ,just be yourself and enjoy life it will come together for you .
Hey, welcome to EC. I've actually had a pretty similar experience. I've also always found women attractive. But between middle school and high school I started thinking about the same sex. I really started questioning my identity in high school and I have been since. Yes, I would say that over the years I have started thinking about guys more. But no, I don't think it's possible to turn gay. If anything, you realize that you are gay after a while. I find it hard to believe though that one can genuinely go from liking guys/girls to not. Anyway, it really didn't occur to me that I had ANY interest in guys until high school, but I certainly wouldn't say that's who I "turned into." Rather, it was a personal realization. And yet, it's still something that confuses me.
Heya, welcome. Sexuality is a fluid thing. Feel free to question it as you get older. I know it's hard at first but after you've considered it, learn to embrace and accept it. Don't be afraid of it. It's part of who you are. Best.
