Hi everyone! My name is Michael and I am 14 years old. I've been struggling with my sexuality and I finally broke down and decided to see if anyone could help me answer questions about myself. I think I might be bi, because I still like girls, but if I had to choose between a guy and a girl, I would choose a guy. So what does that make me? I am so relieved I found you guys! Thanks so much! M
haha. that's alright, I find the scale more confusing than anything, I just stick with identifying as a lesbian and just try to allow myself to be open to sugestions
Hi Michael, welcome to EC! Need some more info. When you say you still like girls, are you sexually attracted to them or just prefer them emotionally over men? If you are sexually attracted to girls then yes probably bisexual but leaning more to men.
Well, I really don't know if I am sexually attracted to girls. Maybe a little, but, now that I think about it, I am mostly sexually attracted to guys. I think I might prefer them emotionally. For instance, every time I move to different cities, I become friends with girls first. And I really feel uncomfortable thinking about them (girls) sexually, yet, with my guy friends. I have no problem what so ever thinking about them sexually. I really don't know if I am gay yet. I know the evidence is there, but for some reason, I can't come to terms with it. Does anyone know how to do that, short of coming out of the closet to other people? Thanks so much! M
Ah if you like girls emotionally and not in a sexual way then i think you may be gay Come out of the closet when you feel ready to, there is no rush. The first thing you need to do is accept yourself for being gay above all else so I advise coming out as the second thing you do. It just takes time to be comfortable being gay, but please try not to self-loath like I used to do because it really brings you down. For me, I always knew I was gay but I hated it so much. I kept wishing to be straight and was constantly on edge for fear of anyone finding out, and I got so fed up of 'acting straight' all the time. Anyway, it was only like last year I thought to myself 'well this clearly isn't going to change so I may aswell just embrace it and live a happy life'. I came out to my sister last October and it felt so good to finally tell someone! She was fine with it and supports me all the way ^^
