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Super Girl · 24th Jul 2012, 11:53 AM

Hello! I've been browsing the site and joined up hoping it would help me be a little more comfortable with myself. I'm a 25 year old college student still living at home while working and going to school. I didn't date anyone at all until I was 18 because I thought the fact that I wasn't attracted to boys more than girls meant I was asexual or something. In retrospect it seems like a silly idea, but I was raised very religiously and it never occurred to me that not having a preference for boys was ever something that would happen.

I love my family, but they don't seem to agree or even really understand the idea that people not straight aren't weird or creepy. It breaks my heart when they say thing or make jokes, but I'm too timid to do more than quietly disagree. I'm hoping being here, among people who are more confident or know what they're doing or are even confused along with me will help me figure out who I am without trying to force the answer to be what I want.

I'm lucky enough to have a couple of friends who understand how I'm feeling. My best friend knows and is supportive of me, has never treated me any different, so I'm very lucky there.

Thanks for reading and I hope to meet a lot of you!

-Super Girl

Olls91 · 24th Jul 2012, 12:21 PM

Hey there super girl , yer being confused is't fun but you will figure out what you want when you find it

x

Bobbgooduk · 24th Jul 2012, 12:37 PM

Greetings, SuperGirl.

It's difficult in your situation, especially when family members say things which hurt you without realizing it.

I'm out to everyone so people don't tend to say things in front of me. If people do sya things, I tend to challenge them - "Have you any idea how offensive that is?" Depending on the circumstances, of course!

I think a lot of people say things without really giving any thought to what they say - they don't intend to offend, but no-one has ever made them stop and think.

**thecat06** · 24th Jul 2012, 12:40 PM

Hello and Welcome!!

alex2020 · 24th Jul 2012, 12:52 PM

Bienvenue!

Super Girl · 24th Jul 2012, 01:00 PM

Thanks for the welcome, everyone! You all seem very nice.

silverhalo · 24th Jul 2012, 03:45 PM

Hey welcome to EC.

Hypnotico · 25th Jul 2012, 12:50 AM

Welcome, SuperGirl! I think joining EC is the first step towards finding more about who you are and that's a good sign, you did the right when you joined this amazing community. You'll like it here!

Flow · 25th Jul 2012, 01:24 AM

Welcome to EC!

Aeon Magus · 26th Jul 2012, 03:43 PM

Hello, Super Girl, and welcome to EC.

24th Jul 2012, 11:53 AM	#1
Super Girl Newbie Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Location: California Posts: 4 Join Date: Jul 2012	Hello :) Hello! I've been browsing the site and joined up hoping it would help me be a little more comfortable with myself. I'm a 25 year old college student still living at home while working and going to school. I didn't date anyone at all until I was 18 because I thought the fact that I wasn't attracted to boys more than girls meant I was asexual or something. In retrospect it seems like a silly idea, but I was raised very religiously and it never occurred to me that not having a preference for boys was ever something that would happen. I love my family, but they don't seem to agree or even really understand the idea that people not straight aren't weird or creepy. It breaks my heart when they say thing or make jokes, but I'm too timid to do more than quietly disagree. I'm hoping being here, among people who are more confident or know what they're doing or are even confused along with me will help me figure out who I am without trying to force the answer to be what I want. I'm lucky enough to have a couple of friends who understand how I'm feeling. My best friend knows and is supportive of me, has never treated me any different, so I'm very lucky there. Thanks for reading and I hope to meet a lot of you! -Super Girl __________________ I want to be a hero, a small and good kind of hero, even though I know heroes have very short lives. -Boris Becker Last edited by Super Girl; 24th Jul 2012 at 12:04 PM..

24th Jul 2012, 12:21 PM	#2
Olls91 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 56 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: Hello :) Hey there super girl , yer being confused is't fun but you will figure out what you want when you find it x

24th Jul 2012, 12:37 PM	#3
Bobbgooduk Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 54 Posts: 703 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: Hello :) Greetings, SuperGirl. It's difficult in your situation, especially when family members say things which hurt you without realizing it. I'm out to everyone so people don't tend to say things in front of me. If people do sya things, I tend to challenge them - "Have you any idea how offensive that is?" Depending on the circumstances, of course! I think a lot of people say things without really giving any thought to what they say - they don't intend to offend, but no-one has ever made them stop and think.

24th Jul 2012, 12:40 PM	#4
thecat06 Let the journey of life continue! EC Moderator Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! (Homoromantic Demisexual) Out Status: Out as pan to most, out as gay completely Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 20 Posts: 7,066 Join Date: Jun 2011 Tournaments Won: 9	Re: Hello :) Hello and Welcome!! __________________ The tide of history only advances when people make themselves fully visible. -Anderson Cooper

24th Jul 2012, 12:52 PM	#5
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: It fluctuates. Out Status: To some. Location: Florida Age: 20 Posts: 2,040 Join Date: Aug 2011 Tournaments Won: 2	Re: Hello :) Bienvenue! __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

24th Jul 2012, 01:00 PM	#6
Super Girl Newbie Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Location: California Posts: 4 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: Hello :) Thanks for the welcome, everyone! You all seem very nice. __________________ I want to be a hero, a small and good kind of hero, even though I know heroes have very short lives. -Boris Becker

24th Jul 2012, 03:45 PM	#7
silverhalo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Quite a few Location: England, Age: 30 Posts: 4,219 Join Date: Dec 2008 Tournaments Won: 21	Re: Hello :) Hey welcome to EC.

25th Jul 2012, 12:50 AM	#8
Hypnotico Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Location: Mexico- Currently going to college in Texas, U.S. Age: 22 Posts: 71 Join Date: Jul 2012	Re: Hello :) Welcome, SuperGirl! I think joining EC is the first step towards finding more about who you are and that's a good sign, you did the right when you joined this amazing community. You'll like it here! __________________

25th Jul 2012, 01:24 AM	#9
Flow Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Houston Age: 20 Posts: 165 Join Date: Apr 2012	Re: Hello :) Welcome to EC!

26th Jul 2012, 03:43 PM	#10
Aeon Magus EC's Blue Gaylien Full Member Gender: I go peepee standing up xD Orientation: I'm a Man's Man Out Status: The people that I care about most. Location: Western Cape, SA Age: 27 Posts: 2,919 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hello :) Hello, Super Girl, and welcome to EC. __________________ Sing me a Painting, I'll paint you a Song Inside my heart is breaking. My make-up may be flaking, but my smile still stays on. The show must go on.