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I'm Out; I Love It

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by mranvil, Aug 2, 2012.

  1. mranvil

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    Hi guys,

    So on July 4th, after 21 years of repressing who I was and my true feelings, I finally told my wife of nearly 11 years that I was bisexual. Since then, I've told a few friends, but no family, and I think I've pretty much told everyone I'm going to tell. The people that matter now know and that's the important part for me.

    I'm 36 years old now, and happily married, and even though it took a lot of convincing for my wife to understand this wasn't a prelude to me leaving or using my sexuality as an excuse to walk away from our marriage, it was worth it. We're closer than ever and we've sort of bonded over it because she realizes that with all the choices I had (which are now a larger "pool" if you will) I'm still happy with her.

    Why am I here? I don't know. Maybe to offer a helping hand to people. For 21 years, I denied who I was to the point of depression and hating myself. I don't want anyone to have to go through that and if I can help even one person, that's worth it in my eyes.

    Thanks for creating this forum. I've been reading for a long time and just got around to jumping in. Looking forward to getting to know some of you!
     
  2. BudderMC

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    Welcome, and it's nice to hear that things went well with your wife. :slight_smile:
     
  3. mranvil

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    Admittedly, it took a couple of days, but it's all good now. I reckon it's probably not an easy thing to hear (especially when you think you know someone) but yeah, overall, life is good.
     
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    That's fantastic! I'm glad it went so well with your wife. And I'm sure many people will be glad to have you here. :slight_smile:
     
  5. Aeon Magus

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    Hello, Mr Anvil, and welcome to EC. :slight_smile:
     
  6. Billeraphon

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    Congrats. Nice to hear a positive story
     
  7. thylvin

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    Hi, welcome to EC Mr. Anvil, and congrats on telling your wife. I, like you, love to help people and this forum is the best ever, I have yet to come across a similar friendly helpful forum on the net, but to no avail. So I am always here to see where I can help.
     
  8. Gallatin

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    Bienvenue! :smilewave
     
  9. BradThePug

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    Hello and Welcome!!
     
  10. shironuma

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    What a nice and understanding wife you have, stories like this make me happy <333

    Congrats and welcome to the forum!
     
  11. SkyDiver

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    That's so great to hear! Welcome to EC :slight_smile: