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  1. John Smith

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    Hello everyone!

    I Googled "coming out" and found this site! I think I'm gay but havent told anyone. I think I'm actually in denial about my feelings. What should I do? :confused:
     
    #1 John Smith, Jan 22, 2008
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    Hi John, Welcome to EC! :slight_smile:

    Another Brit too, excellent!
     
    #2 Paul_UK, Jan 22, 2008
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    Welcome John! This is a great place to discover who you really are.
     
    #3 beckyg, Jan 22, 2008
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    Welcome!!

    Don't worry, I went through the denial stage too...it took me 2 years to give in so don't worry, take your time.
     
    #4 GlindaRose, Jan 22, 2008
  5. John Smith

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    It's sort of like accepting the inevitable.

    We had a Christmas house party last month, just after term broke up before people returned home. Only a few friends came. But by one in the morning they were asking me why don't I drink (I'm teetotal) and am I gay? I felt really upset because I thought they were my friends. I imagined it was the alcohol but I've felt uncomfortable with them since.

    I'm trying to avoid a next time by avoiding similar parties with the same people.
     
    #5 John Smith, Jan 22, 2008
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    Welcome. :grin:

    Yay for having another member from England. :grin: :sunglasses:
     
    #6 Martin, Jan 22, 2008
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    welcome to EC!
     
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    Hey cutie! I like your avatar!
     
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    Huzzah! We normally have more Brits than anything else, but lately we've been coming up a bit short...

    If you wanna chat, feel free to PM me. :grin: I'm always up for a conversation, and such. Welcome to the boards!
     
    #9 Jeimuzu, Jan 22, 2008
  10. Ty

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    One step closer to total EC domination:badgrin:

    But seriously, welcome :slight_smile: This place is awesome. Hopefully i'll have a good story to tell when I come out end of this year (supposing everything goes according to plan :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:)

    !(*hug*)
     
    #10 Ty, Jan 22, 2008
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    Hiya John Smith and welcome to EC. Can I just ask.. is that your real name? or are you extra smooth?

    Any who if you wanna chat feel free to PM me too and be sure to keep on posting around!

    Jamie
     
    #11 Jamie, Jan 22, 2008
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    Hi ya! (and yes!! another Brit...!!). You'll find that most/many people on this site have been or are in denial of their feelings (I was in *complete* denial for 12 years!), so you've come to the right place, and this is a great place to chat whilst you figure it all out!!
     
    #12 ccdd, Jan 22, 2008
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    Welcome to EC!
     
    #13 Nodnarb, Jan 22, 2008
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    Welcome welcome welcome to EC EC EC! :lol:
     
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    Welcome to EC, take your time to sort your feelings out here, it really does help a lot :slight_smile:
     
    #15 Blitzkrieg, Jan 22, 2008
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    Embrace your gayness.
     
    #16 BabyBoy, Jan 22, 2008
  17. John Smith

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    No, afraid not. Just the most imaginative thing I could think of. Well, it's either that or Zippy!
     
    #17 John Smith, Jan 23, 2008
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    Welcome from one Brit to another...you'll get lots of advice here.
     
    #18 Bromptonrocks, Jan 23, 2008
  19. happygay

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    hi welcome to EC ,hope you fun and be your self
     
    #19 happygay, Jan 23, 2008
  20. Jim1454

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    Hi there! First off - welcome to EC from Jim in Toronto!

    It's very much like accepting the inevitable. Accepting things that we can not change is one of the most healthy things we can do. Accepting something like being gay allows you to move on and deal with it, rather than agonizing over it and wishing you weren't.

    With respect to your friends... I guess it might depend on how they approached the question, and how supportive you think they would be if you admitted it to them?

    If you think they'd be OK with it, then you're more than half way there, because they already suspect. It makes it easier to confide in someone what already suspects you are gay than to 'blow someone out of the water' who didn't have a clue.

    I'm sure it was the alcohol, because someone more sensitive wouldn't come right out and ask like that.

    And avoiding them? Well... good friends are hard to come by. If this is your only issue with them, I'd stick with them. But I don't know the whole situation.

    The good news is - this is the place (Empty Closets) where you can work through this kind of situation with folks that have been through a similar situation before, and can relate to what you're going through.

    So again - welcome!!!:smilewave
     
    #20 Jim1454, Jan 23, 2008
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