Well, as a new member of EC, I figured I'd introduce myself a little... plus I need a little advice on coming out. I'm in high school, and I recently discovered I'm bisexual (although I'd suspected for a long time). I live in a relatively non-homophobic community, luckily, and I feel somewhat safe about telling someone. I have one friend I have literally known my whole life (I have baby pictures of us) and I have considered telling him first. I don't really think this will be an issue, as he has several friends who are homosexual. My family is not homophobic whatsoever (my aunt is a lesbian and my sister was named after my mom's best friend who was gay), so I don't think they will be a problem either. :eusa_danc However, most of my other friends are either strict Jehovah's Witness, or Mormon. :icon_sad: I don't know if I will ever tell them (although I feel bad keeping secrets). Finally, I have a friend whom I met a few years ago. We are so similar in personality, people often call us "the twins". :lol: Our friendship grew really close really fast, and she is by far the best female friend I have ever had. This girl would be the second person I told (the first being the male friend I mentioned). I know this is kind of a classic, but I'm really afraid that once she learns I like girls, she'd distance herself from me. Or worse, reject me. :icon_sad: I really don't think I could handle that. Is there a way I could tell her to minimize the chance of future awkwardness between us? I really, really do not want to lose her.
Hey welcome to EC, when I first started to come out I also had a major fear that my friends would all become paranoid that I fancied them and things would become awkward but they never did. The truth of it is, if they are a true friend, which it sounds like she is then they wont have a problem. Perhaps when you tell her, you could say, 'ive been really nervous about telling you because I really value your friendship and I didnt want things to become awkward between us, but because I value your friendship I really felt I wanted you to be one of the first people to know', or something along those lines.
Agreed! I know it's easy to say, but if the both of you have a strong bond then she won't go anywhere. And welcome to EC!
