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Hi, need to talk more, not just about transition

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by Valarie, Oct 1, 2012.

  1. Valarie

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    Hi I'm Valarie
    guess ill start with a bit of background info

    im 24 years old
    I'm transgendered female, still in the initial stages of transition.
    Only my family i live with knows, with a few select family members
    None of my friends know, really scared of what will happen after i tell them
    On hormones for 4 months now
    boobs are present, so telling people is a more pressing matter now
    have a temp job currently, looking for a more permanent one

    as for my hobbies, gaming (any), manga, anime, math, science, beer snob, bookworm, scifi and fantasy lover, .... i think thats mostly everything

    as for what i want to talk about, how about anything, just want to talk
    though, experiences on telling friends and family, how to, reactions, and final state after coming out

    so yeah quick bio
     
  2. J Snow

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    Hey, welcome to EC =)

    I'm going to be one month on HRT this week. Much like you a lot of people don't know yet for me, and that's including my family =/

    Feel free to write me on my profile wall if you ever want to talk!
     
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    Hello and Welcome!!
     
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    Welcome Valarie. Recently I told my best friend and his wife about my probable intentions and they were really great about it, in fact I felt bad later about underestimating them.
     
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    Hey welcome to EC.
     
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    Welcome. I myself am getting ready to start seeing a therapist. I haven't started hrt or anything like that yet, but I have come out to my sister and several freinds about what's going on in my mind and the fact that I'm intending to do something. I've talked to them about what it could mean, and they've all been very supportive.

    I'd be happy to share my coming out experiences if you'd like.

    Welcome aboard!
     
  7. Haley M

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    Hi Valerie, welcome to EC! I think you are amazing that you started transition already. I don't think it will matter what your friends think since you are so far along. If they are your true friends then they should understand! I know it's hard, I'm having trouble telling my friends too! Just stay strong and congrats on your accomplishment! :slight_smile:)
     
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    Hello and welcome!! Emily is a great person to talk to about this-- along with just being an awesome chick in general-- because she is super sweet and understanding. And I will be here for you too, if you need a friend.
     
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  10. Valarie

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    TJM, would love to hear your story
    I'm currently writing a letter to my friends, since I'm bad at talking about things that make me uncomfortable, have anxiety issues, my mom pretty much had to rip it out of me... >.<
    so hopefully that will help to put it out on the table so it is easier to talk about

    Emily, I keep going back and forth between what friends I think will be ok with it and ones that won't
    hesitating telling them since I'm afraid what will happen, but I need to tell them, yeah >.>

    ^,^
     
  11. Valarie

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    well, somewhat random
    just got my results back for a 3 month follow-up
    T is 70
    E is 180

    ok that's not the random part
    I'm not really comfortable talking about this with people I know, so here it goes talking to people I didn't know ^w^

    I just had my first wet dream, ever, and I'm pretty much at girl levels for hormones
    wtf?
    has this happened to anyone else?
     
  12. Cassandra

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    I wanted to say "Hello and welcome" but I guess I'm newer member than you, so I'll go with: Hello, I'm Cassandra, and I'll be glad to share my experiences, if you're interested!
     
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    Welcome, it's nice ot meet you
     
  14. Valarie

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    Cassandra, i would love to hear you experiences, trying to get as much as i can <^W^>
     
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    Hello and welcome.
     
  16. Cassandra

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    Of course!

    I'm planning on writting all about what's been happening to me since I started on the blog. I'm not much for blogs, but I need to say it, and the blog would be a good place to do so. So when it's ready, you can go to my blog!

    Also, I really want to hear your experineces too.