I am new to EC and have really enjoyed what I have seen thus far. I am trying to figure what I am either Gay or Bisexual. The reason for my choosing EC was to finds friends who are struggling like myself and have someone to talk to that would not judge. I look forward to speaking to as many as I can. Feel free to ask me anything. Jeff
Well, hi! I am not sure if I completely understands you, but shouldn't you figure out if you are gay or bi first before coming out? So that it is clear to both parties (you, and other people), and you dont have to travel closets?
Welcome Jeff! There is a great network of support here and people from all different walks of life and situations, maybe even similar to yours. Feel free to post any questions or problems you are having in the Support & Advice area. As for your poll, I feel in person is best since it's much more personal and meaningful than through an electronic device or paper.
Nice to meet you Jeff. As Lance said, this is a great place to meet people, ask questions, and find support. Take full advantage.
Lovely to meet you Jeff c: I'm sure you'll find the community here to be quite supportive! We're glad to help with anything~ (In relation to your poll: In person, while being the hardest is the best way to come out to someone)
The only times I came out were in person, and I truly recommend that way. Welcome to Empty Closets! You'll happily find that we have many other members over 30. Well, I'll start with the obvious question. Do you find women attractive? I mean really?
Hi Jeff, welcome to Empty Closets! Reading through you introduction, I am wondering if it might not be a good idea for you to figure things out first, and be comfortable with your sexual orientation before you come out to others. Being comfortable about ones sexual orientation and being able to say "this is me," can help with the coming out process, and can make it easier on you. In terms of how to come out, you will discover there is no right or wrong way to come out. It really depends on what you feel most comfortable with. You might want to try different ways of coming out. In my own coming out, I have used different ways (e-mail, letter and in person) to come out, depending on the stage of my coming out process, and to whom I was coming out.
The hard part about all this is I am married with a child. After our child was born we had intercourse a few times but it was not enjoyable. I had a difficult time performing. We have not had sex in about two years. When at look at men I begin to get stirred if you know what I mean.
Welcome Jeff, :smilewave take your time, to explore your feelings. Someone once told me that our sexual identity is very fluid. I didn't start question until I was 40, ten yrs after being married. It took me to more yrs to really nail it down. I am very certain now that I am gay. I came out to my mother through texting, my wife and step daughter in person. My best friend through FB, and my cousin and uncle over the phone.
Hello and Welcome!! I would say to wait until you are sure before you come out. When you are ready though, come out in the way that you are most comfortable with.
I think we all owe it to ourselves to be true to ourselves and those around us. You only live once, so if these are genuine feelings, and if pursuing that life will make you happy, then it might be best to do so. Have you always felt attraction towards men, or is it just in the past few years? I know there is a stark contrast in the way our generations view and process homosexuality.
Hi Jeff Welcome to EC and I hope you find the site as helpful as I have. Everyone is so supportive on here and I'm sure you'll feel like one of the family soon. Nicxx
Well as long as I can remember. I was abused as a child by several of my brothers and I am nit sure if this is all steaming from that or what. It happened when I was 9 but I still remember it well. I just don't know. I am so confused and torn.
