Sexagenarian isn't just a cute double entendre, with a flashy first 3 letters, for me. I am 61 and still closeted for the most part. 2008 was a big year for me. I came out to my wife and got diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome both in the same year. Many years ago, I tried coming out to a childhood friend who I fell totally in love with at age 19, but he didn't believe me. I also came out to the first girl who I asked to marry me; that ended that relationship. Besides tha, I uncloseted to one other lady-friend, from whom I sought solace at a difficult time in my life. And then there was a stranger on a plane, who was traveling to visit her gay son and I came out to her on the spur of the moment. One reason that I am here is because opening up to my wife about my sexuality has been super for me. It's like I have let someone into my life and she loves me for every bit of what I am. I have felt better about myself these last 4 years than I ever have before. I want to bear witness to the fact that mixed orientation marriages can not only survive, but thrive in an atmosphere of total honesty. I believe that sometimes two people can be intimate across their normal sexual preferences. It depends on the couple. I e-know several guys who remain happily married to their wives, despite their principal attraction being to their own sex. I know of others who have modified their personal commitment agreements to allow sex with a preferred sex partner, while remaining together (polyamory). I am still no less attracted to guys. I enjoy a good looking young guy as much as a het married guy enjoys looking at pretty girls. But I do not consider it a chore for me to be married against sexual preferences. From the vantage point of my years, I have come to believe that initial sexual orientation is but one important part of committing to build a life with someone. Another reason that I am here is because I would like to replicate what has happened in my conjugal life. My post-closet relationship with my wife has been so much better than before. I feel that I would like to replicate that honest/real type of relationship with other people who are close to me; principally my brother and my son. Hopefully I'll get some ideas on how to go about that here.
Hello and welcome! Sounds like you've had a lot of self discovery these past few years (like many of us here)! I wish you good luck on your quest to reach a more honest relationship with the people in your life
Congratulations on a great coming out to your wife, :eusa_clap and welcome to the EC.:icon_bigg This is a great place to meet and talk and learn about yourself and the LGBTTTQQIAAP community.:smilewave
