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Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by mickjagger, Jan 4, 2013.

  1. mickjagger

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    Hi everyone. I just got an account to EC and I am so happy to have found it. I found it by accident, stopped everything I was doing, and joined right away.

    I am confused, and the following paragraph will be very... stream of consciousness.

    I am a student at university and have never dated a girl or a guy. I am not sure what is wrong with me, but I don't know whether I am gay or straight. I have honestly never had a crush on a guy but have had crushes on girls. When I think about my future, I see myself with a girl (usually a girl that I am close to at the moment) and we are happy and joke around with each other. However, when I walk on the street I find myself looking at other guys and looking down at their pants. It might be because I am slightly below average down there, but I don't think that's the case. I have the ability to tell whether a guy is attractive or not right away, but for girls it's different. Sometimes for girls I can tell when they're extremely beautiful and I'll want to be with them, but for most I find them just average (maybe because I am not attracted to them?). I have gotten very close to a lot of girls but they end up calling me their best friend. I have fantasized about dating them but whenever I get close to the girls, I hesitate to kiss and we end up having gossip sessions. Is this because I am not attracted to them or because I am a coward (I am cowardly, but is that enough to stop me from dating a girl?). I also have recently converted to gay porn. I used to find it nasty, but now I find it hot.

    Bottom line: I am confused. I don't know what to do. Should I try and kiss a girl? Should I try and find some guy?

    But anyway, I am happy to have found this site. :slight_smile:
     
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    I think that you should wait until you are sure of your orientation before you go looking for a relationship. You don't want to get stuck in a relationship only to find out that you actually swing the other way. Ultimately it is up to you to figure out what you like, it may take awhile, but its better than rushing and making a mistake. Personally I think that you might be Bisexual, but I could be wrong.
     
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    i find the female body absolutely beautiful, and my females friends beautiful, and i feel romantic feelings toward them. i love thinking about them. but there's something about the male body that i find sexually appealing. i don't know if it's because i do have homosexual tendencies or if it's because most men are more "manly" than i am, and i crave to have that myself.

    in all honesty, i don't know how to address my "questioning" orientation other than becoming involved in a relationship and seeing how it pans out, physically and emotionally. i have tried porn, and i have befriended plenty of "potentials." i think the next step is a relationship.
     
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    May be a good idea to ask a therapist.

    Perhaps watching porn videos/photographs of both genders might help you decide whether you're gay, straight, bisexual, trisexual, quadro- em... you get the message :grin:

    I suspect you might be bisexual. But you should get help from a counselor or therapist.
     
  5. WilliamM

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    Yah like the others have said you should seek help from a counselor or therapist. You mite be bi sexual or you mite be asexual with bi romantic tendencies
     
  6. Given To Fly

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    However you end up identifying, you'll find a lot of support within these forums :slight_smile:

    :welcome: to EC!
     
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    Hi mickjagger! Welcome to EC! We share some things in common, if you ever want to chat, let me know!
     
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    Hello and Welcome to EC!!
     
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    Well there's no need to rush into a relationship. I'm sure you will be able to find out your sexuality. It will probably come to you; that's how I found out mine.

    Anyway welcome welcome welcome to EC! :grin:
     
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    Wecome, hope you find the answer soon. Whatever it will be, you are always welcome here and ask whatever is on your mind, there are huge of people who are willing to help here.
     
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    Hi and welcome to EC!

    It sounds to be as if you're bi, but for all we know you could just be going through a 'phase' which might explain why you're finding men attractive. In a few weeks/months/years from now you may stop finding them attractive. You say that you find women attractive, so I doubt you're gay.
     
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    well i thought everyone found women attractive. they just are beautiful and their bodies are too. i feel that way, but i feel more sexually attracted to men.