Hi, I'm a teenager who recently has recently realized that I'm bisexual. However the reason I'm having trouble coming out is because my parents are ultra liberal, and would probably never shut up about the fact that I'm bisexual. I'm not saying I'm ashamed of my orientation or anything, I just don't want it to be big deal. I could really use some advice about coming out.
Welcome dude. And wouldn't the fact that they're ultra *liberal* make them more open to acceptance? It's the conservatives who are typically less supportive.
Welcome, Wyfish-- I'm sure you'll find this to be a very supportive community. I am a little confused by your comment about your parents, though. Do you mean that you'll become some sort of poster-boy for coming out? --Zoe
It's them being too accepting that I'm more worried about happening. I just don't want this to be a big deal. It's hard to explain.
I completely understand what you're saying. You're afraid they're going to have a rainbow flag in front of your house, volunteer at the gay center, be front-and-center at the gay pride parade, and telling everyone how proud they are of their bisexual son. It's definitely better than having parents who send you to ex-gay camp and throw you out of the house... but at the same time, I can understand why it could be really awkward and uncomfortable for you. Given that they're super liberal, is it possible to communicate with them that you need to have your privacy and not make it a big deal? I do think part of the reason it's potentially embarrassing for you now is that you're not fully comfortable with your sexuality and it's awkward and just doesn't feel right to be talking about that with them (or anyone else.) Admitting you're gay or bi is making yourself very vulnerable, sort of like being naked for the first time at a nude beach or something. There would be nothing inherently wrong with that, but it's still really uncomfortable for most people until they realize that nobody cares and people are OK with it. Perhaps explaining it like that, or in some way similar to that, would help them be more understanding of your feelings.
