whats it like being out?

Hey I think it's awesome you've got enough courage to Come out When u came out to my mom it was emotional But she told me I'm still her son and being gay dosen't change her thoughts on me She still loves I think being known feels awesome When your not out it causes so much anxiety stress And depression But coming out lifts a lot of that stuff of your shoulder the sleepless nights and everything I like being out it feels different but in a good way! I hope Everything goes well for you on coming out and maybe give me a update I love trying to help people!

 

My dad doesn't mention it - that's just his way and means he accepts it and is absolutely fine with me being gay - but my mum is coming to terms with it. She said partner when referring to anyone I might bring home in the future last week so it seems to be fine. Sometimes I can't tell but definitely nothing negative.
My brothers couldn't care less, so that's good.

Writing it out, I realise it doesn't sound great but it's how i want it. I wouldn't want them to endlessly be voicing their support for me being gay: being gay is part of who I am but not all of who I am haha

 

Firstly, I hope it all goes well for you.

What's it like? Hmmm, I suspect it's different for everyone, and I've been out quite a while, but in my case it made a huge difference to me, and very little difference to my family ( they'd always expected it, even when I thought I was very successfully 'playing it straight' ).

I was lucky, it felt good, and it was definitely a huge weight off my shoulders.

Best of luck for tomorrow

 

I've only come out as trans, which didn't go over well with parents. However, I will say that a huge weight has been lifted off my back, to reiterate the common metaphor.

They don't accept my identity, so they essentially treat me the same as before I came out (albeit with more suspicion).

But, best of luck to you if you're ready to come out.

 

Thanks I'll defiantly read this I'm sure your parents will accept you Your still there sin I'm pretty sure your abiding by the rules you ain't made any offensive quotes or anything so you should be good Also welcome To Ec I'll be here two weeks tommrow I've got a 126 post count so I meet the requirement's to possibly become a full member ☺️

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wow how rude of your parents to say that to their child And btw love your profile pic I'm so excited for Trailer park boys season 10 On Netflix tommrow!

 

So pleased to hear it went well for you, that must be a huge relief!

 

See I told you they would take it really well parents know just because their sons sexuality is different don't make there son different Your still you no matter what! I'm happy you had the courage and glad your family is supportive!

 

Great to hear! I hope all goes well. Leslie and I got outed because we were walked in on by our parents... her mom/my aunt. With each passing day it's getting easier. The beginning was scary as hell and my heart still hasn't slowed back down to normal but... if feels like a big burden's been lifted off of my chest. The fact that I don't have to hide how I feel and to hold hands in front of them and and and... Yes, they do act a little differently when we're around but that'll take time me thinks. Good luck and always follow your heart (unless it tells you to step out in front of a moving bus)

 

I came out but I don't think it has sunk in a lot with my family. They still refer to me as though I am a female.

 

Good to hear that it went well for you!

For me, I'm still not fully out yet but I can say how it's been so far.

I think it's easier for me to connect with people since I'm being honest with myself. I still get really nervous when someone refers to me by female pronouns, I want to correct them but I feel I can't. My mum thinks I'm absolutely crazy for wanting to be considered male and has since disowned me for it, I don't really know what's going on in her mind but she seems to think that because I never "showed any signs" of it when I was younger it means I'm not really transgender. I miss my mum a bit and I think being disowned has begun to set in finally. I'm not sure how other family members react since I only made a post about facebook. I was considering messaging people over it instead but I don't want to bother with it right now. I have my doubts every so often but I think that's only out of habit since it seems part of me wants to slink back into the closet.

 

Switch genders and yea... this.

 

My mom and sister treat me the same, get awkward when I bring it up. What's kind of embarrassing is that my mom still (when she finds the topic relevant) talks to me about dating as though I'd be dating a man. I find it all pretty amusing.

 

As a fellow Yorkshireman my favourite parts of this post are

Everyone else in the world just thought you made a typo on 'mam'.

Reminds me of a true Yorkshire granddad response to finding out from grandma that his grandson is gay "it be right lass"

What great responses you got from your family. Happy for you

 

Yeh, I've said in other threads but I still find it funny that my aunty still says queer all the time but never to mean gay, just in the way that something isn't quite right. Things like "I think I'm getting flu, been feeling queer all day". Haha, at first everyone used to make an uncomfortable glance towards me but now we all just find it's funny.

 

I wouldn't know, but I'm guessing it's something like this: