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Jagster · 13th Jun 2011, 02:38 PM

It's easy to fall in love, sure. It's easy to fall out of love, sure. What I want to know is, what is the feeling you get when you are in a same-sex relationship.

If you have read my coming out story, then you would know that I dated a girl before my first coming out.

Between dating the one girl, and then dating a guy, I felt something different when I dated a guy, and not the girl. I had this feeling of bliss in me the whole time I was dating the guy, and not the girl. When I dated the girl, I had this feeling of fear (mainly from her friends). From experience of my own relationship and watching my other friends' relationships, I found it harder for myself to just keep up with a girl and make her happy, leading me to give better reason to go out of the closet. So that's when I did.

I really do enjoy the feeling I get when I date a guy... it really helps me sleep at night some times. :P

So I do want to know... how do you feel when you date someone of the same sex?

Fizzle · 13th Jun 2011, 06:12 PM

It makes sense that it would feel better when dating someone of the same sex, when that is what you're attracted to. It's uncomfortable to date a person of the sex you're less attracted to because...well, you're not attracted to them. Attraction goes a long way in creating feelings. That being said, I don't think there is a difference in the feelings of a gay or straight relationship. Love is love

alexi12 · 13th Jun 2011, 09:19 PM

I'm glad I never dated any girls.. I came close a couple of times, but even though I was still confused, I knew that it didn't feel right.

13th Jun 2011, 09:40 PM

I have dated one girl, one guy. The time I spent with the girl shouldnt count though because she was just using me as an accessory. For obvious reasons I wasn't happy

Zontar · 13th Jun 2011, 09:58 PM

Dated a chick. Drove me nuts.

Dated a dude. Drove me nuts.

So far, my impression of relationships is less than satisfactory.

EndlessMusic · 14th Jun 2011, 05:43 AM

Tired from procrastinating exam revision

malachite · 14th Jun 2011, 11:13 AM

well, for me it just felt right. I've dated girls and had sex with girls and it just never really did it for me. Kissing a girl there was very little activity down there, but kissing a guy is like a rush. Thats how I knew it was right.

13th Jun 2011, 02:38 PM	#1
Jagster I am strong. Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Anchorage, AK Age: 15 Posts: 29 Join Date: Jun 2011	How do you feel? It's easy to fall in love, sure. It's easy to fall out of love, sure. What I want to know is, what is the feeling you get when you are in a same-sex relationship. If you have read my coming out story, then you would know that I dated a girl before my first coming out. Between dating the one girl, and then dating a guy, I felt something different when I dated a guy, and not the girl. I had this feeling of bliss in me the whole time I was dating the guy, and not the girl. When I dated the girl, I had this feeling of fear (mainly from her friends). From experience of my own relationship and watching my other friends' relationships, I found it harder for myself to just keep up with a girl and make her happy, leading me to give better reason to go out of the closet. So that's when I did. I really do enjoy the feeling I get when I date a guy... it really helps me sleep at night some times. :P So I do want to know... how do you feel when you date someone of the same sex?

13th Jun 2011, 06:12 PM	#2
Fizzle Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay/lesbian/queer Out Status: All but family Posts: 13 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: How do you feel? It makes sense that it would feel better when dating someone of the same sex, when that is what you're attracted to. It's uncomfortable to date a person of the sex you're less attracted to because...well, you're not attracted to them. Attraction goes a long way in creating feelings. That being said, I don't think there is a difference in the feelings of a gay or straight relationship. Love is love

13th Jun 2011, 09:19 PM	#3
alexi12 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but extended family Location: Chicago Area Age: 18 Posts: 371 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: How do you feel? I'm glad I never dated any girls.. I came close a couple of times, but even though I was still confused, I knew that it didn't feel right.

13th Jun 2011, 09:40 PM	#4
lulu165 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: How do you feel? I have dated one girl, one guy. The time I spent with the girl shouldnt count though because she was just using me as an accessory. For obvious reasons I wasn't happy

13th Jun 2011, 09:58 PM	#5
Zontar Mister Funny Man Full Member Gender: Male Location: Binghampton, NY Posts: 1,534 Join Date: Oct 2010	Re: How do you feel? Dated a chick. Drove me nuts. Dated a dude. Drove me nuts. So far, my impression of relationships is less than satisfactory. __________________ Get up and open your eyes...Don't ever let yourself ever fall down... Get through it and learn how to fly...I know you'll find a way...today. -Days of the New, "Dirty Road"

14th Jun 2011, 05:43 AM	#6
EndlessMusic Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Questioning Out Status: Some people Location: MELBOURNEEE Posts: 64 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: How do you feel? Tired from procrastinating exam revision __________________ Hey Angel, Why so duh SEXY?

14th Jun 2011, 11:13 AM	#7
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: How do you feel? well, for me it just felt right. I've dated girls and had sex with girls and it just never really did it for me. Kissing a girl there was very little activity down there, but kissing a guy is like a rush. Thats how I knew it was right. __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

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