ok I just lost a friend because I was a trans she keeped telling me I was female no matter what and I can't change it so I just said back I me and she said she leaving me because i'm trans now she got me thinking am I wrong am I a monster is there something up with me should I just go back to being a female and forget these tran fellings
I'm sorry for being harsh :icon_redf but a friend that leaves you just because you're transgender isn't a real friend - you're better off without her.
You might have a look at this: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/gender-identity-expression/156085-i-just-im-kind-scared.html#4 (*hug*)
I'm sorry. (*hug*) I know it hurts but, trust me, it is better that she went away from you. There's nothing worst that a bad friend who you feel some emotions for.
I've got those feelings from time to time, but when they come I remind myself that what others think of me is not the same as the reality. Love means to accept the other person as he or she is, and not trying to change that person. It seems to me, the person you mentioned is not worth your time, you deserve something better. Don't let anyone put you down. (*hug*)
*virtually picks you up and hugs you in a big, squeezy bear hug* It takes a little while to learn - I'm still learning it myself - but if somebody can't appreciate who you are due to your sexuality or gender, then they don't matter a watt. The people that matter are the ones that appreciate you for you. In any case . . . I know it feels difficult right now, but everything is going to turn out okay.
It's hard, but it's for the best. I don't want to be friends with people like that and hopefully you shouldn't either. Don't let anybody tell you who to be. Hugs