Reaching out to Secondary School teachers? (Transguys help me)

My teachers were my greatest support through high school, but I'm from the US. If you've got a good teacher you trust, I say go ahead and talk with them.

 

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It might be a good idea to talk to someone you trust...

Here are some materials you might have a look at, and maybe show :
http://emptyclosets.com/forum/gender-identity-expression/156085-i-just-im-kind-scared.html#4

You might build some community on EC... talking to others through wall messages, and after 14 days applying for full membership and join the chat...

You might talk to a gender therapist or to someone from an lgbt center... saying you want some counseling... is there an lgbt center in your area ?


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Well, as a teacher myself who is not out to her students I know the difficulties of telling people. Do you trust your teachers? At least one who you look up to and seems very accepting? Even if they don't understand, teachers who care about their students will definitely look to help.

I have one openly trans male in school and no one else.

It pains me to think if I'm trans and can't come out, then how many of my students are?

I wish you the best.

 

Hi! Well, cutting your hair short might help with the dysphoria, also, maybe buy some more masculine clothes? I'm on the step of buying new clothes, since I'm going to America and have a lot of money saved up.

If you ever need someone to talk to, or just a friend, feel free to message me on my wall. Good luck! ^^

 

I was stuck in that same situation, my god. But I've just done what I want, chopped off my hair, switched to the male version of the uniform and am even using the male toilets/change rooms. It may not be as easy for you to just do what I'm doing, but it's worth a shot. No one really questions me for it, but I guess I've always had pretty close relationships with a lot of the guys at my school.

Message me on my wall if you wanna chat. Best of luck.

 

I feel you here, I know how it hurts, that's why I never told them the truth about myself back then, when I was your age, it's awful, I know (*hug*)

Well, this is not going to go away anytime soon, specially if you don't take action : Cut your hair will help a bit right now. Also stop making efforts to be perceived as a female, because it is only hurting you. Most of the female clothing is designed to expose the female "charms", and that in our case is only more gas for dysphoria. Experiment with clothing, wear what you feel is good for yourself.

And seriously : Cut your hair if it's bothering you. Your head and your hair belongs to you and nobody else.

 

I'm from the Uk as well :smilewave Unfortunately, I can't advise on school that much because I didn't have the same experience. I didn't know I was trans back then.

Is the counsellor at your school? If not, is there a counsellor at your school? Maybe if there was, they could help you with coming out to teachers so that even if you don't get the support at home, you can be closer to being yourself at school.

I don't know if that's any use. I'm sorry I can't offer more.

 

Hey! From the UK too. I think that going to members of staff such as guidance coordinators, school councilors and heads of year can be good if it is what you would like. Schools shouldnt deny your rights if you ask them to treat you as your identified sex/gender. I think in the uk (?) there is legislation that is in place to stop the discrimination or denial of rights based on gender (cis and trans) But i am not completely sure. Although i have learnt about it in my services classes, i know my school do no allow my other trans friend in school to wear the uniform she desires. I've thought myself of coming out at school and possibly telling members of staff, however the discrimination my brave friend faces i feel i could not be as strong and cope, as the discrimination and bullying i would get would be overwhelming. its horrible to think that would happen, so i tested it one day and as i have a genderneutral appearence, wore trousers and even though i kept them on for about 3 hours, i got a lot of hareassment so i concluded it would be safer to stay under the cover of female at school. I say this to make sure you are aware of what could happen. I know.it sounds like a kill joy, and it may just be my school however i think you have to think about what it would be like to come out as opposed
to hoew things are now. To releave disphoria in either situation, short hair and gender neutral bags for school can really help. Also buying unisex school shirts.and jumpers from school suppliers are a great way to help. i hope i could i help, i wish you luck!

 

Small steps are the place to start. I wasn't in public school when I began questioning and transitioning so I don't have a lot of perspective on that front. I was, however, homeschooled and living with my mother.

But there are things you can do now in order to help make things easier while you're starting to step out of the closet. Get a hair cut. Since you still have to pass as female, pixie cuts are a definite option. The cut may be feminine but even the shorter length alone made a huge difference for me.

You can start wearing gender neutral clothing too.

 

That's great! It sounds like you've got an ally there.

 

That's wonderful! I'm glad you've found someone that you can trust.

 

Great to hear you've got a teacher on your side! I'd like to think that in the UK we're a bit more open to this stuff.