Please share your experience with Internet Dating

I found there free to join but then you have to pay to reply to a message. They call it an upgrade.

 

I met my ex-gf through online dating and actually made some friends through it as well! But then I also met some meh people. It takes a lot of patience and time and I don't have either right now so I stopped, but I'm sure I'll do it again in the future.

 

I've dated some people off of a site called *******. It was okay in the beginning, but it really made me feel like I was shallow and only going out with people based on their looks. So, I stopped using it.

 

You might have a look at this:
Internet Dating?

 

From another thread, on this topic.

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I'll admit, in my younger days, I'd make two accounts with the same information, with some appropriated tweaks, on a few sites. Only, one would be with a very plain-looking fellow, and the other would be a very cookie cutter cutie. With the former, I'd have the profile all informative and literate, while the the latter, it'd have typos and cursing all down the page.

I don't recommend this. I was young, kind of dumb, and bored.

Still, I learned three things from these experiments:

One, an unhealthy number of the people only look at the profile picture, before messaging.

Two, nearly the same number as the first bit, didn't have a problem with someone who had "i dnt lyk 2 read" or "shool iz dmb", if they were attractive. However, in the very plain-looking fellow's case, it was stupid or even sad if they had "I don't like to read" or "school is dumb". From the SAME pool of people!

Thirdly, I learned, most people only want hook-ups. Either buy them a meal, or hit the sheets for a bit, possibly both. But interestingly, the more illiterate and insulting I was with cookie cutter cutie, the more determined most (not all; some, actually, knew better and stopped) became. Compare to the very plain-looking fellow, who got little to no responses, unless he was talking about money.

I don't know if I could make a serious online dating profile. It seems rather discouraging, really.

 

have to say ones I have visited people are more concerned about onenight stands or just full of fake profiles but maybe I looking in the places .

 

I met my ex-girlfriend online, and she turned out to be an absolute creep! She was needy, possessive, jealous, abusive... Not a good experience

 

It's interesting though. I didn't meet my ex-bf on a dating site but to a random chat. I actually met friends there and have been using it since 2008.

 

ruined my little remaining self-esteem, would recommend for cooler and attractive people tho

 

Terrible , all the girls ever do on there is just visit, my page and don't say anything I got fed up and just don't bother with the site anymore .

 

The most humiliating experience ever. The only poeple who replied despite being very clear on what I wanted were people who viewed me as a fetish object. Not one genuinely interested person at all. Lots of snarky comments about my appearance, lots of being ignored.

 

I've used online dating sites on and off for the last 14 years.

Relationships - only one success.
Short term dating (not resulting in a relationships) - probably about 5 or 6 successes - very high intensity.
Friends - met 3 of my best friends online.
Acquaintances - several that I run into from time to time and have a good chat.
Dozens of mediocre one night stands

My biggest tips are to always meet in public and don't go home with someone you don't trust.
Get comfortable with saying "No".

Peace! (*hug*)

 

My previous experience in a nutshell:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aOAmRxvPXLE

 

If you're experienced in meditation, perhaps look at guided hypnosis audio as well.
The hypnosis state is very similar to the meditation state.
It's a good way to learn about yourself.
Audible has some pretty amazing ones on there.
They have just about every subject you can think of - from raising your libido to getting over a fear of flying.

Just something to think about.

 

There are a few approaches that worked, of course with different results, for some people.
One is to do online dating with a concept: a short list of realistic preferences, a personal and thought out profile, getting active oneself and being willing to filter a lot of candidates.
One should not believe all that is told... on another thread was an example of a 15 yr old photo...
And saying no if there is a bad feeling connected... and saying no in general.
Details with howtos, especially concerning safety, can be looked up.
Remember to always stay safe, don't give personal information, meet in a public place etc...


A further approach is doing things we like, combined with getting in contact with people.

I have known people who have met through community courses, sports clubs, food tasting courses, cooking courses, etc..
Of course here, too, it might be necessary to say no if required...
Often its possible to ask what people attend the courses, what age they are, where the courses are, what teachers etc...

Please do not let a few jerks keep you from exploring.
From your posts you are a nice and thoughtful person.
You will find someone in time.
(*hug*)

 

@Damien I feel the same way

 

Is it a fantastic thing for the LGBT community (in particular). Yes because its not easy to meet a man/or a woman.

But it makes me feel uncomfortable meeting somebody not necessarily online, but a dating website/app.

One springs to mind where male (....) types can meet fellow (....) types for some casual sex. The problem is have of them are closeted cases who are clearly not straight but reckon they are. The moment you ask them which way they go, they get quite...unhappy.

Then we have ******. Every gay I know is on it, but it must be the main reason of STDs with all the casual hook up it encourages. You get some proper odd sorts, too

And worst. The (almost always) men who use fake pictures and are only interested in your dick. And your appearance.

You are ultimately unlikely to meet anybody for anything other than hook up, literally nobody I know has had a successful long term, worthwhile relationship from date sites

This forum is interesting. It (rightly so) allows people to be themselves, but that leads to me thinking their guys on here who I think sound really nice and proper relationship material. But obviously that's not allowed for our own safety. Just wish I could find fellow normal people in person